Black Relationships : Should Polygamous Marriages Be Reinstated?

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  1. Metaverse

    Metaverse Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Who can forget that episode of "Good Times" when Thelma almost moved away to Africa with a Brotha named "Ebay" - the only thing that stopped her was the idea that Ebay's traditional custom allowed him to have several wives.

    A Westernized Afro-American Woman just won't go for a deal like that one. Or so they say.

    Although Polygamy was outlawed in this country in 1890, American Males still continue to have very Polygamous relationships. In secret of course. Should some Women be kept in a thick fog of deception just because they cannot accept the obvious? Women outnumber Men on this planet, in gross numbers. And as long as Men are ushered into activities that warrant their death and distruction- Women will continue to outnumber us.

    Modern Researchers might argue that Humans in their very nature as mammals, have never been monogamous. I would add to argument that Man, while he physically an Animal, has been striving to be much more than just a mammal spiritually.

    We can surely look out into our own communities and see the large bodies of very lonely Black Women who will leave this Earth never having any real long term commitments with a Male. So far, there have been only a few options for these females. Wait patiently, take whatever comes. Same Gender Relations. Or save the coochie for Jesus.

    What if we have it all wrong? True indeed not everyone is here on this planet to mate, some of us are of a higher Spiritual order and should not be lowered to be just sexually adaptable. But how did our Ancestors deal with their vast number of Women compared to the small number of men? We credit our African Ancestors for everything great and powerful, but when it comes down to that....the room goes silent.

    First of all, we might be looking at the issue with the wrong brains. Some of us are too sexually obsessed or oppressed due to European Imperialism for an open polygamous marriage to work. Even now, the Sistahs reading this might be having flashbacks of Snoop Dogg with two Women at either side in dog chains. For that reason I believe Men should not be the ones with total control over the construction of a polygamous marriage. It should be arranged only by, as the Chinese would call her- "Big Mother." She is the head of all the wives in the Home.

    As it stands Men should not be in control of the sexual exploits of submissive Women either. "Pimpin" as it is so commonly known. Women should be the ones doing so.

    If prostitution is a fact of Life, then these same "Big Mothers" should be the females running those empires. Not lust crazy, cross-eyed dimwits who dropped out of Kindergarten to start Escort Services. Forgive me, it seems that most of what I see here in Atlanta. I would call Atlanta a map of Black America. What I find interesting, is because the "Strip-Club Culture" is so big here, allot of Black Men treat every woman that crosses their path, as if she is a stripper, or a female with a price. I am proud to say not all Black Men think like them. I will say that those kind of Brothas are not the ones worth cloning.

    Since polygamous marriages would most likely result in a house full of Children- Black Women would have to learn to choose their Co-wives, as well as there Husbands more wisely. There can only be one Queen. And if we cannot learn to respect our Women as more than sexual attachments, there is no hope for monogamy either.

    Not all Women are comfortable with sharing their Man. I know I bought up the idea of a Co-Wife before to my Woman, and she looked at me like...Brothas, you know that look. I will say that having one Black Woman in the house is more than enough for me. But I know allot of Brothas like variety, and I respect that. I don't look down at other Men because they want more than one Woman, I just ask for those Brothas to be African Gentlemen, because we are the best the planet has to offer.

    So, Should Polygamous Marriages Be Reinstated? Would it help us or deepen the hurt our Sistahs already experience? Most of all, will it keep Daddy in the house so he can be a loving Father and provider? Will it help to end Poverty conditions since there will be more working people in one home to help provide for and manage the offspring? Will it end the deception since most Men are getting their polygamy on anyway?

    I pass the mic....

    Peace & Love to my Destee Fam!
     
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    Thank you Sistah Destee...I just read a few of them. This topic is hot.
     
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    Polygamy was started for protection, not for procreation. In days past it was not good for a woman of child bearing age not to have a husband. The men shortage then had the same causes it does now. War. But first the man had to prove he had enough money to support more than one wife
     
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    yes they should, since monogmy is one of the biggest issues these days... y not allow the true good men to be good to more than one woman.... as slim as the pikins theese days.... y not....
    women... take more than one man too... especially if you havent found all u need ans want in one!:bowdown: :bowdown:
     
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    Peace Slowly and PoeticManifesta. Now you both bring up and interesting question for the Women.

    If a Man was able to provide everything you need financially, which means you wouldn't need your own money for anything- would you care if he had more than one Woman? Especially if he was providing for everyone, and gave you the luxury and protection most Women still require?
     
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    I was a big fan.. of hbo's "big love" about the poligmius ppl.. in the u.s....
    i personally think he would still have to meet the emotional needs too... because thats the 2nd biggest issue...
    for both men and women.
     
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    I do NOT agree with polygamy has a solution to the female/male disparity

    Problem: More women than men

    Probable Cause: a. War b. Incarceration c. Undesirability

    If these things are the cause(s) of the problem, then find ways to eliminate these things.

    Polygamy is a possible solution GIVEN that those things will continue in the future. At some point, polygamy will NOT be able to solve the female/male disparity if those "things" grow out of control.

    Let's find THE solution to the problem and stop using short-term solutions to solve very serious problems in our society which need long-term solutions.

    Peace, Fam.
     
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    Money ... we've shared in discussions about this topic, many times over the years, and you know i'm not totally against polygamy ... but your response above is right on the money ... Money! :)

    Great Great Great ... gotta give it to you ... :toast:

    :heart:

    Destee
     
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    Much respect to Monetary for the comment.

    Realistically there are solutions to the disparity between Males and Females, however to implement those solutions would require a great deal of un-learning, especially where us Men are concerned.

    This should be done anyway: The majority of our Womanhood would have to be exalted to a level where divinity, cultural and community respect is given to them for not being among the mating / procreating class. This is not only possible, but there is enough evidence to support that besides the use of females as sex slaves, extra wives or home helpers- historically indigenous and African Women have been assigned certain titles- whether it be Queen, Shaman, Sangoma - these titles hold power for those females who are "chosen" for that path.

    In the catholic/Christian religion, these women are known as Nuns. But also in the catholic religion, the Pope and its Priests are required to be these non-sexual spiritual leaders for their flock. One of the reason this religion itself might be so full of perversions, is because that tradition is stolen from the feminine principle. Females are usually stronger than the males when it comes to "shutting off" their sexuality for the pursuit of spiritual endeavors. Europeans extended all their beliefs in Male Supremacy when White Supremacy was put into action. Man and Woman are a unitary vessel. Even when Polygamy is concerned, if the Womanhood does not see it fit, it should never be put into practice.

    A great deal of power has been stolen, and is stolen from the feminine principle, and unfortunately by those who are too primitive to know how to use it.You can't steal from Women and expect to be in power long. Females control the intuitive centers of the planet.

    Monetary, what you are saying makes a great deal of sense. Hotep!
     
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