Black Relationships : should i tell the truth

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  1. tcr1223

    tcr1223 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    hey whazzup yall last nite i was talking to my "boyfriend" and he asked me wat the most i ever did with a boy and i haven't done anything and i lied and said i did things ..i kno i should b proud that i've kept myself pure but im not and now hes askin me to do all these thing wit him that i dont want to ..should i tell him i lied and jus face what he has to say about it o never tell him im so lost and its all over sumthin stupid ....sigh
     
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    in this case, tell him the truth.
     
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    Monetary going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Tell him the truth....and stop lyin'. It's not good for you. :maddd: :D

    This is a good lesson for you. You see what happens when you lie? In order to back up the first lie you told, you have tell more lies. See, it's a never ending story. And, if it does end, it can end badly. You don't really want to be in a bad situation do you? So, STOP LYING.

    There's no shame in saying I don't want to answer that question. Or, that's a very private question. I choose not to answer. Lying gets you nowhere but in a situation you don't want to be in like..."your boyfriend asking you to do things you didn't do and don't want to do". If you had told the truth, you wouldn't be asked to do things you've never done and don't want to do. Just tell him the true.
     
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    I'm just amazed that you actually lied about being sexually active. Most women lie about being pure.
     
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    ladylibra Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    the truth will set you free.

    say what? you're not proud to be a virgin? why not? why are you ashamed?

    you should be very proud of yourself.
     
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    speak the truth , let him know this not your true thing
    if he care anything about you he will understand .......

    lies alwayz catch up in the most deep spots....be real
    and true to self .
     
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    I really don't dig this guy. Whether you've done things before or not, for him to keep pressing you to do something after you've said you don't want to do it he's acting crass. What part of "no" does he not understand?

    That said, you know now to not pretend to be anything you're not just to make someone like you. Cuz see then it's not you they're liking. It's the person you are pretending to be--a person who doesn't even exist.

    Don't beat yourself over the head over what you've done. Just start where you are. If this guy rejects you after you've told him the truth you haven't lost much. If he makes a big deal about the fact that you lied, take the punishment and move on. That's all you can do. But don't do it again.
     
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    as I stated in the other thread

    'Oh, What a Tangled Web we weave when first we seek to deceive'
    The tongue is such small member of the body but its deadly.. and could get you into alot.

    You shouldn't ever have to find yourself in a situation that would cause you to lie to a man, boy or whomever.. Yes tell him the truth, cuz the web of lies will only become more intricate..

    Don't do anything you don't want to do.. and avoid situations that would lead you to do anything you don't want to do .. plain and simple.
     
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    tcr1223 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    thanks fa all ya replies which i will remember fa the future and i told the truth and we talked he was mad and we decided to slow things down and he said he likes the fact that i haven't dont anythin and that i dont have to impress him but i dont kno kno about this guy....
     
  10. Auroraflower

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    hi ...


    just wanted to say people make mistakes ...

    but i am defenatly not for a lie..


    some people ....


    a lot of people actualy these days....

    keep a lie ...


    and the horrable thing of all is that it doesnt make people move forward..


    its when people keep a lie....

    it makes them not move forward..
    and other people to ..

    for holding it down...

    holding the truth...





    that is why i always try to be honest about my feelings ..

    even if that makes me look dum or stoopid ...
    or to soft or whatever..









    good luck..


    set yourself free..

    you can do it with the lord..







    LoveAuroraflower:heart:
     
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