Black Relationships : Should Couples Marry And/Or Stay Together For The Children?

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  1. Liberty

    Liberty going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Is it better to teach/model to your children how to stay together even in a detrimental relationship, or to teach them how to walk away and start over?
     
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    Though there are questions about detrimental/abusive relationships, there are reams of data showing it is better to stay in a two parent home for the kid(s). Thus it is imperative that you choose well a mate.





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    Yes or no?

    Suppose the marriage is filled with arguing? Resentments? Tension? Suppose the children think it's their fault?
     
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    If you are mature enough not to do it in front of the kids,.....





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    I vote. Yes they should stay together. If they no longer get along, they should have considered that before making said children. And it teaches the children by example that you don't walk away from problems. Children are a HUGE responsibility and I think people have them with no consideration
     
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    So, you think the kids won't know? And, you think that because you have children, you have no right to pursue happiness? Do you owe it to our partner to be faithful?
     
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    Liberty going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Do you also believe that the conception of a child is a reason for a couple who are not n love to get married?
     
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    The children come 1st





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    Yes, and you can't hide it from them. Even as young as, I'd say 3, they can sense unhappiness. And, they will try to "fix it" imo.
     
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    Stay together

    Yes

    Still trying to live together is the best move......physical violence and threats is where I draw the line.

    No....Things like that cannot be hidden from kids.....they read your body language more than they listen to what you say in the younger years

    True....I say the sense it from in the womb
     
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