Black Relationships : She Wont Put Out?

Discussion in 'Black Relationships' started by Kemetstry, Jun 15, 2011.

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Ok, you have been dating the woman steadily for over a month. Yet, she seems totally disinterested

Poll closed Jan 11, 2012.
  1. A. Dump her like a lead weight

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  2. B. Be patient and hope for the best

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  3. C. Become more agressive

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  4. D. Up the ante with flowers and poems

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  1. Kemetstry

    Kemetstry going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Ok, you have been dating the woman steadily for over a month. Yet, she seems totally disinterested in being amourous in any fashion. Do you:

    A. Dump her like a lead weight

    B. Be patient and hope for the best

    C. Become more agressive

    D. Up the ante with flowers and poems

    Why?
     
  2. Shikamaru

    Shikamaru Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Put out?
    Are we talking about vending machines?
    I hope this isn't people we are discussing ....
     
  3. Kemetstry

    Kemetstry going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    I believe you are familiar with the term

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    Shikamaru Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Follow me for a bit, if you will ....

    I will assume that you are about raising the consciousness of Nubian people in general.

    Part of this raising includes the status of Nubian women, Nubian relationships, and Nubian sexology, yes?

    There is a tone and vibration to language.

    "To put out"... strikes me as the opposite of raising all the aforementioned above.

    Do you see my point?
     
  5. maf

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    I agree the the language doesn't quite fit, but to answer the question just because the female is disinterested in physical relations doesn't mean I would kill the relationship. If there is a legitimate connection there then that warrants having patience and seeing where things lead. If there is nothing physical and there is nothing tangible as far as a connection goes then it may be time to move on. I'm assuming there has to be some reason the female has been in your circle for a over a month though.
     
  6. Destee

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    lol Kemetstry ... you want her to put out in 3.5 seconds ... don't be wait'n no whole month ... huh?

    Mookism : if she aint pour'n it on you, soon as you walk in da door, dump her - quick fast and in a hurry.

    Love You!

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    You're joking right?

    Maybe she should 'dump you' for obviously not knowing how to properly talk to or about women.

    This is a question i would think only 'mookie' would ask! Very unbecoming of a black man!
     
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    Disinterested in you? Or in sex?

    If she's disinterested in me, then we have no reason to see eachother in the context of dating.
    If she is interested in me but just wants to hold off on sex, and she was interesting enough to hold my attention, then I would continue to see her. It's not a matter of "waiting" because sex is not the goal of this kind of relationship. Sexual relationships begin almost immediately with sex. There's no waiting.. It's all physical.. With the before and after rationalized into a "relationship".. But it's really just sex with dinner and coffee and the occasional trip to the park.

    Having vegetables with your steak does not make you a vegetarian.
     
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    *sigh*......Oh boys :rolleyes:
     
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    It's actually 3.4 seconds.. Mookie manual page 36.
     
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