SHE IS YOUR WIFE.
Give a blind Man a stack of money and he wouldn't know the difference between the 20s and 1s. Are we the same way in American society? Remember when Black folks were always called out statistically for having the highest numbers of "unwed" child births in the nation? But now in the media terms like "baby mama" are as common as a terrorist threat. Hollywood Celebrities are being called baby mamas and daddies as a way to describe their unmarried union and we celebrate that somehow because perhaps it makes us feel, dare I say it - "normal and accepted."
While I fully understand the biblical notion about following "the laws of the land" since the natural world could consume the American/European population many many times over - the laws of the land are dictated by nature not Man's law. However Human laws do govern our minds and thoughts.
In most indigenous cultures when a Man wants a divorce from his wife he simply leaves her in the house and goes off to build a new house. How hard is that to understand? BUT he is still responsible to that Woman especially if a child is between them, then she is still his Wife regardless.
We know how the Sistahs feel about polygamy, and rightly so. Indigenous Women complain about it too. But no one not even nature has provided a balance between the disparity. Except for the fact that by nature some Men will fight and some Men will die. Naturally by his own governance a Man will walk out into the world and find a way to kill himself.
There is a Man the natural world might highlight that our current society will ignore, in fact- we will claim he doesn't exist. Since it's natural for Men to kill themselves, who takes care of the wife and children after that? Obviously those Men who aren't prone to that "termination" disposition. We should be as thankful for such strong Men as we are for strong Mothers.
An area very rarely discussed especially for those who stand behind polygamy is the fact that such has always applied to the Women as well. In the natural world sometimes a Woman will take up her entire family and move to another Man's house, leaving the poor sap of a Husband to fend for himself. But that husband is still required to bring fish and provisions to his children, the new Father figure is not required to take up his burden so long as he is still alive.
What am I saying here? I am saying the term "Baby Mama" and even "Baby Daddy" is a term that has taken away a sense of responsibility not just away from the child but to the relationship. In the natural world, sex may not be a sign of marriage all the time, but when a Man keeps a Woman in his house over a period of days that can be a sign of marriage even if they never had sex.
This was true in the south for many generations too, and it was called "common law marriage." You could have a Woman living with you for 6 months or vice versa and not realized that you were now legally married.
Meanwhile, polygamy is being practiced anyway regardless if we call it that or not. Brothas with 3-5 different so-called "baby mamas" - those are your Wives. Face it, because that's exactly how she acts when she calls. She is responding to a natural instinct, just as the Male will react to a natural instinct if you walk into her Home and another Man is playing PS3 on the couch with your child.
But I guess in a way, it might make sense to keep the term going, as not to alert the Females about what's really going on. It might sound better to say a Man has 2 Baby Mommas and not 2 other Wives. No one wants to feel less than number one.
But what makes better sense? Child support is alimony anyway on the books.
Marriage isn't always about jumping over a broom. Marriage is an intimate union the tying of a knot. Now what could be a bigger knot than a child?
Brotha. That's not your Baby's Mother. That's your Wife.
Give a blind Man a stack of money and he wouldn't know the difference between the 20s and 1s. Are we the same way in American society? Remember when Black folks were always called out statistically for having the highest numbers of "unwed" child births in the nation? But now in the media terms like "baby mama" are as common as a terrorist threat. Hollywood Celebrities are being called baby mamas and daddies as a way to describe their unmarried union and we celebrate that somehow because perhaps it makes us feel, dare I say it - "normal and accepted."
While I fully understand the biblical notion about following "the laws of the land" since the natural world could consume the American/European population many many times over - the laws of the land are dictated by nature not Man's law. However Human laws do govern our minds and thoughts.
In most indigenous cultures when a Man wants a divorce from his wife he simply leaves her in the house and goes off to build a new house. How hard is that to understand? BUT he is still responsible to that Woman especially if a child is between them, then she is still his Wife regardless.
We know how the Sistahs feel about polygamy, and rightly so. Indigenous Women complain about it too. But no one not even nature has provided a balance between the disparity. Except for the fact that by nature some Men will fight and some Men will die. Naturally by his own governance a Man will walk out into the world and find a way to kill himself.
There is a Man the natural world might highlight that our current society will ignore, in fact- we will claim he doesn't exist. Since it's natural for Men to kill themselves, who takes care of the wife and children after that? Obviously those Men who aren't prone to that "termination" disposition. We should be as thankful for such strong Men as we are for strong Mothers.
An area very rarely discussed especially for those who stand behind polygamy is the fact that such has always applied to the Women as well. In the natural world sometimes a Woman will take up her entire family and move to another Man's house, leaving the poor sap of a Husband to fend for himself. But that husband is still required to bring fish and provisions to his children, the new Father figure is not required to take up his burden so long as he is still alive.
What am I saying here? I am saying the term "Baby Mama" and even "Baby Daddy" is a term that has taken away a sense of responsibility not just away from the child but to the relationship. In the natural world, sex may not be a sign of marriage all the time, but when a Man keeps a Woman in his house over a period of days that can be a sign of marriage even if they never had sex.
This was true in the south for many generations too, and it was called "common law marriage." You could have a Woman living with you for 6 months or vice versa and not realized that you were now legally married.
Meanwhile, polygamy is being practiced anyway regardless if we call it that or not. Brothas with 3-5 different so-called "baby mamas" - those are your Wives. Face it, because that's exactly how she acts when she calls. She is responding to a natural instinct, just as the Male will react to a natural instinct if you walk into her Home and another Man is playing PS3 on the couch with your child.
But I guess in a way, it might make sense to keep the term going, as not to alert the Females about what's really going on. It might sound better to say a Man has 2 Baby Mommas and not 2 other Wives. No one wants to feel less than number one.
But what makes better sense? Child support is alimony anyway on the books.
Marriage isn't always about jumping over a broom. Marriage is an intimate union the tying of a knot. Now what could be a bigger knot than a child?
Brotha. That's not your Baby's Mother. That's your Wife.
