Amun-Ra : Sexy and Sexual?

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  1. Amun-Ra

    Amun-Ra Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I could be kicked out of the playas club for what I am about to write about but I feel that it is necessary. As a man I’ve found it difficult to explain to women the difference between being sexy and sexual and I am dumbfounded to find a reason why I even should care.

    Nevertheless, the difference between the two is not written anywhere, but the reality of the two and how it affects relations is all around. Unfortunately, I think there is a clear misunderstanding of the two among women and that misunderstanding contributes to hurt feelings, unwanted advances and confusion about men.

    I would describe sexy as an overall person that has a sexual element that is nearly hidden behind mystery as well as good taste and restraint, whereas sexual removes any mystery or restraint and provides sexual interest rather than overall interest. As a man, why I should even care remains a mystery.

    Does it make a difference? It depends upon a woman’s goals. Either appearance will interest almost any man, but it is the type of interest that determines the relationship and seems to be confusing to women. For most men, the more skin available to a man’s eye, the more his thoughts move toward sexual activity. After that the distinction is just a matter of how much work is going to be necessary to achieve the goal—sexual intercourse.

    This is not to say that a solid relationship cannot develop, it is just saying that sexual intercourse was the primary motivating factor. It was a purely physical attraction.

    On the other hand sexy usually produces a more restrained approach because the sexual signals are not so clear. Obviously, there is a sexual interest but without that clear sexual signal, men tend to approach women a little more cautiously, and usually end up taking time to form a more meaningful relationship.

    It appears that many women don’t care about the difference, but when complaints go out about the type of men they attract, that’s when I have a problem. Of course, if a romp in the hay is all you are seeking, the sexual look is much more effective in getting right to the point.

    I am taking a risk in writing this because I could be kicked out of the men’s club for revealing such information but it just seems that women should know what they are getting into from a man’s stand point rather than by what their girlfriends tell them.

    On a purely testosterone driven level, I find that sexual women attract me. I like that blatant sexual appearance, that slightly tawdry and nasty aura that makes my blood race, but I must also confess that until AIDS these would all be one-night stands unless it was real good and even then I wouldn’t have given out my real name.

    On the other hand a sexy women is intriguing not for what she shows but for what she doesn’t show. It is the mystery that is the ultimate attraction, but even it has its drawbacks, as testosterone doesn’t like to spend much time working.

    In addition, these women can be marriage risks and may take us out of circulation. Still, it’s not my call. Women wear what you like, but be aware the signal you think you’re sending may not be the signal that is received. When there is chum in the water, it attracts sharks—and we all bite.
     
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    I just wanted to stop by

    and say, "WELL SAID!" There is nothing more I need to add, here. I'm glad you brought this, and I'm hoping ladies and gentlemen alike, are taking note. Not to worry about being kicked out or off of any clubs, lists or teams, Ra...people with discernment will be nodding their heads in agreement, as well.
    And those who hadn't heard this before, have just been schooled.

    Thank you!

    Have a great Thanksgiving!!!!!! :)

    alyce
     
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    Yes Amun-Ra ... there is definitely a difference. Great article!

    Reminds me of sump'n my Momma tol' me one time ... :wink:

    Happy Thanksgiving Amun-Ra, Alyce and Everyone!

    :heart:

    Destee
     
  4. Amun-Ra

    Amun-Ra Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Happy Thanksgiving to Y'all

    May yours be safe and fun-filled--by the way-- I loves me a trashy woman, I just ain't got much use for them after it's been emptied--I know that's sad, but I ain't gonna pretend I didn't see them--I saw them--I came--and I conconquered--or something like that--got to go, I'm icing my cakes and I want them to be perfect--Ebony is finishing off the potato salad and we getting ready to get in the shower and then have a Crown and Seven--Ra

    :)
     
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    y'all said it all and most def ya on point !
    happy thanksgiving too all
     
  6. Amun-Ra

    Amun-Ra Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    nailed it

    you nailed it--I know women have otout up with the goo, bad and the ugly, but some of it can be alleviated if you check the type of signals you might be sending--women will always attract men, you just want to besure you're attracting the right ones and for the right reasons--a word to the wise--physical attraction always occurs first in men and women--for men, we just as soon sleep with you on the first date--hell on the first table we can find and that may not be what you're looking for--sometimes you have to help us get past our hormones--and we can lie--ooowee can we lie--and y'all believe us even when you know different--what's up with that--but keep on keeping in--I like it all--Ra

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    about the lies... women do that too, some better than others. i can remember making a couple guys think that i was really into them, just for the hell of it. i wasn't getting money or things from them... just power. man, i was evil. i pimped my sexiness-- well that's when i was discovering it and the power of it. i was also very sexual but that's because i didn't realize my value. you opened an old trunk for me Ra. :spinstar:
     
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    We Men

    We men can be such idiots--we often fool ourselves in distinguishing the two, it is only after the fact (sex) that all of a sudden we are turned on by sexuality and not the sexiness--now we got ourselves a probvlem because we problem have said things that we actually meant at the time--but the power of the orgasm brings realty to out eyes and we start
     
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    Thanks for taking the time to notice and acknowledge the difference. It's refreshing to hear a man's honest opinion.

    Yes, we ladies have to be careful what messages we are sending with our clothing.

    You said it perfectly Amun. Big up my brother !!!
     
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    because it's so easy to send the wrong messages
    the fashion ware now days is a statement saying
    come and get it !!
     
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