Black Relationships : Serious question

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  1. iwannabe

    iwannabe Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I dont know if im evil, inconsiderate, weird, anti social or what but...SOMETIMES...after sex...I dont really feel like being around the girl. I find myself making excuses to leave the bed or distance myself from her. It seems most girls want to lay there and like....just LAY and hold u- be held. Seriously...guys have you ever felt this way? Any idea why? I mean I can like the gurl SO much, but SOMETIMES rite afterwords I just feel the need to distance myself....
     
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    did you ever discuss this with the partner?
    they may feel the same way.
     
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    iwannabe Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Well if they did- I dont think it would be an issue, we would both just get up and leave:| they would be relieved. I said i feel this way SOMETIMES- and I have discussed it with a partner and she was highly offended. So back to my original question- HAVE ANY GUYS EVER FELT THIS WAY?
     
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    i often have felt this way.
    that's one of the reasons i live by myself.
    i call a lady a cab in a minute. but i also talk to my ladies.
    they know what to expect from me.

    why do you care if anyone else feels the same way?
    you should do you, and be willing to take the consequences.
     
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    I HAVE FELT LIKE THIS MANY TIMES. MORE SO WHEN I WAS YOUNGER, ONCE I GOT INTO MY TWENTIES I WOULD JUST LIKE TO STARE AT THE CHICS BODY AFTERWORDS LIKE YO THIS MIGHT NOT EVER HAPPEN AGAIN. :lift:
     
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    iwannabe Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    lol u makin me feel bad, but you are right. I guess I'm trying to validate myself through reasurance that im not the only one...but like you said it shouldnt matter. Still I was wondering if i was weird:|
     
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    i felt this way when i was in my teens but later came to pass and love laying still
    holding her after love making it's the caressing and comforting that come behind
    mixture of love making every woman want it and even some men , i know i like the
    treatment .........but when i did feel that way and jump up i started to feel cheap or
    dirty , what i mean by that is like a male tramp and now i know why at that time those
    few girls felt bad after dealing with me .

    but those feeling you have will gain strength and compassion it will come to pass.
     
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    SAMURAI36 Banned MEMBER

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    Out of curiosity brother, how old are you?

    Is it possible that one of the reasons that you do this, is because you are not interested in these "partners" (this indicates to me that you are not monogamous at this point in time) on an emotional level?

    PEACE
     
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    naw.
    after i eat a very full meal and me belly stuffed, i don't have no interest in food.
    i no want to hang around de food and look at it and hold it close.
    sure, i love de food but now i want to move on to de next ting.
    sometimes when i done shot me load i ain't got nothin left.
    i dead.

    men, women, we different.
     
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    LOL!! :lol:

    But seriously, I'm a very affectionate person, but I've learned that if I'm not totally into a woman emotionally, there's only so much closeness she'll get from me.

    And even if I am into that person, if I'm upset/frustrated with her--even if we just has mind blowing sex--I'm not gonna want to be close to her right afterwards.

    Nonetheless, I'd like to consider myself an emotionally matured and "evolved" person. Brother Elder, I'd like to consider you the same.

    However, this original poster seems a bit young in mine eyes, based on things he's stated (and how he's stated them), though I could be wrong about that.

    Young(er) men tend to not be as emotionally mature/aware as women their age are, and thus his reaction.

    Thus, it is true, that men and women are different, but only at different stages in their development.

    PEACE
     
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