Black People : Self Love?...Explain That.

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  1. Keita Kenyatta

    Keita Kenyatta going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    I'm sort of curious about what people mean when they say that they love themselves. Like, what is it about yourself that you love? What would you like to change? How important are other black people to you? I mean, what is this self love I hear so much about?
     
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    Brother--I wear my hair NATURAL. I don't even comb it. NATURAL.

    So these young ladies are passing by me. One feels a bit bullyish and says "I like you hair." So I tell her, holding my hand to my heart, smiling "Thank you." Her friend than yells "She's lying."

    Now--I should have known. When a woman doesn't like her own hair--as exhibited by her straight hair--why would she like my hair when I have the same hair as her.

    But you know what--I love my people for this little incident of street bullying. Because the whole event is so honest--and that's what we are as a people: Honest.

    Sometimes this honesty isn't great. White man asks where a Black man is hiding and we point out in a heartbeat. But I love it.

    My self-love is routed in my knowledge of self and my freedom to be myself. And I am especially self-loving for the ancestors hand-selecting me for greater things. Finally, my self-love is in the hope of finding that woman to marry. I love the idea of meeting that lovely woman--in love with her people and in love with me!

    That's my self-love.

    HTP

    Btw--did you mean Bro. Polight? When you said 28 year old on Youtube?
     
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    for me loving myself means fighting for what I believe in, for the truth of my purpose and how i fit into existence, to not stop fighting for change to a better state of being. loving my body nourishing it with healthy sustenance and not abusing it but caring for it properly. I changed my hair I started my dreads last year. i love my hair more than i ever have.

    as for my people i give what i have if asked to people; not limited to tangible things, im willing to give my time and service if needed should it be requested. In my plans im going to study herbology since i have a passion for it and healing the sick and afflicted. i want to not for financial gain or just to have an income but simply just to be help and comfort for my community. i also want to teach young women and men what i know afterwards. we don't need hospitals or their drugs. our mother provided everything we need and i want to learn this beautiful wisdom to help my people. we should all figure out how we can help one another because we are one.
     
  4. MsVeraisblessed

    MsVeraisblessed Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    This answers for me..
     
  5. Black-king

    Black-king Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    That's a very good question, although this is a very common saying but few people really know what it means to love one-self.
    For me self-love, is to appreciate what God gave me and put around me. My life, my body and health, my family, my people. I have to do whatever I can to empower, better and improve myself in ways that only will be beneficial to myself and to my community. Some guys will say they love themselves, yet they hate the Black women, while forgetting that the Black men carry the seed to produce Black women, therefore a Black man hating on Black women and is actually hating himself. As it is written in the Bible love your Neighbor like yourself, don't anything that will bring harm, or negatively affect the community is self-love. Support Black businesses and enterprises. Take care of your family and provide for them is self love. Anything you do help protect and better yourself and your people is self-love.
     
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    I think self love is just wanting the best for yourself, not based on flat out desires, but more based on what you've earned with hard work and true patience. When you show love to yourself, you won't count yourself out before you've begun, but get to work because you want to prove you're worth it!

    I'd like to change a lot, hard to say, but easier to figure out.

    As important as any family I see a lot or have not seen in some time. I try not to lack in compassion, patience, nor love for any, so they are treated like my family also, since after all, we are all brothers and sisters of the earth, yeah?

    :)
     
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    I feel that self-love is wanting for your brothers and sisters what you want for yourself...but not many have reach this point.
     
  8. Honey1201

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    I completly understand as far as the hair thing. Despite my avatar I too wear my hair natural. Have been natural for about 5 years now. I like to switch it up with weaves and braids...give my self a break from all the mantience that I do to it. But I primarily wear it natural.

    I can relate to what you said about your people not fully appreciating your decision to wear your hair natural because I experience the same of the opposite sex...I mean how many consious brothers are out there really who don't get there way of style of dress, walk of life, view points on life, how to treat a lady etc from BET and MTV? Not a lot.
     
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