Black People : Self hatred / Self Love ; Which one builds, which one destroys??

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Both , IMHO. When energy is applied it can build or destroy ?

To truly love others, One must love oneself, which is impossible if you are filled with self-hatred. We have to crawl before we walk.

We aren’t born with self-hatred. Self-hatred grows from the early ways we are nurtured (or not), through assumptions we make about ourselves from interactions with parents, other family members, teachers, friends and strangers early on.

Many black children's childhood created a self-hatred so unbearable that, they shut down. They learn to distrust their perceptions to such an extent that it's impossible to separate what they thought and felt from what others thought and felt. They have no center, No core sense of who they are, only self-hatred.

AS they grow older, the self-hatred grew stronger and the long list of how they longed to be different began: Starts in varies ways. Streaking hair blonde hair instead of black; straight, not curly; wanting to belong to another family—feeling like an alien with their my own. Being tease and tortured in school by others. Black on black mistreatment is usually starts real young. Bleaching skin, etc . The list of character traits varies and it's manifested in many , many ways.

The lost of Michael Jackson screams these early traits.


Self-hatred led to disastrous choices in relationships and devastating consequences. Even with financial success, Self hatred does not feed the soul and leaves them lonely regardless how many people are around them. They will do anything to fit into what is accepted in western culture and society whom ultimates defined us. Yes, Even our blackness unfortunately. ( If we let them )

Trying to fit into an society defined by others not their own. To get rid of self hatred, we must learn to identify with success ( Measured , define for us by us, accepted by us. ) Self acceptance is the first step that can lead to self love.

Nothing kills my heart more so then to watch us use negative taught behavior patterns by exemplifying self hatred and using that to tear each other apart. Nothing kills the black soul faster.

With that said, Self hatred can build as self love can build. But what self hatred builds is many lost black souls. What self love can build, is strong people striving to build nations.

Thanks and Peace

 

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