Black People : Second Chances

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  1. legit-writer

    legit-writer Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Do you believe in giving an ex a second chance? Why or why not?
     
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    oh yeah………that stuff was good:lol:
     
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    I do not, as for my situation I tend to give plenty of chances through a relationship and when it is truly over, it's over no matter what. Once we are exes it has already went beyond the tipping point and there is no going back to where we were as an "item". That is just my mentality.
     
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    Fool me once . . ..

    Unless one breaks up for no reason--why would one retry the pains?

    If I slept with a thousand women, I could see how I'd be forced to retry one, but it hasn't been 900 yet for me.
     
  5. legit-writer

    legit-writer Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    what if she breaks up with you out of the clear blue sky and tells you its your fault and that they fell out of love with you, would you give it another chance if given the opportunity?
     
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    "Listen to your conviction, even if they seem absurd to your reason." -- KMT Proverb

    If something akin to that happened to me, I would feel slighted. Thus I would not give it another chance. My reason may say--"She didn't mean to hurt me" but "reason" fools men.

    If she 'fell out of love,' she was never in love. Truly, someone who 'fell out of love' thought 'the grass was greener' and now wants to return to the playground. But she was never 'in love' and I was never 'in love' with her. The best I can do is advise her to go find love, 'cause the grass really is greener and she needs to 'stay off my lawn.'
     
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    legit-writer Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    very insightful
     
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    i don't know...it depends on how you treated me.

    if it's over something silly and we break up, i'll wait and then procede to give another chance.

    If it really major like you all of a sudden he decides to hit me or another woman having a child, its over. forget it. i'm not even looking your direction..
     
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    It depends on why you break up. She was transfered out of town. I was working a full time job and getting a MS in chemistry. Our new jobs require us to devote much more time to it than to each other.

    Or you're a conniving manipulate witch. I'm a triffling dawg

    It all depends


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