Black Relationships : Sacrifices for relationships

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  1. Nisa

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    I just have a question...what did some of you guys have to sacrifice in order to keep a relationship. I had to sacrifice my late night partying (coming in at 5 am) and on my own I relocated to be closer.
     
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    ...love of self. :crying:
     
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    When my ex-fiancee moved in with me, I let my male friends know, and cut down my hanging out with them (I'm speaking platonic), because I know that some men aren't very comfortable with their woman speaking that closely to other men on a regular basis. My friends, male and female are very important to me, but I wanted to make him feel comfortable in my space. They're still around, he isn't!!! LOL

    I don't think that you should sacrifice so much that you lose yourself though. Each party should possibly give up something, or better yet, compromise, in order to make things smooth and accomodating to both parties.
     
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    Hmm. I feel yall...
    My last relationship. i gave so much ...that i wasnt myself anymore. I was sick..couldnt eat ..anything..just became someone else so that I could acommadate him...After the relationship ended I became better..dropped his lifestyle that I took on to make life easier for him. In this new relationship..everything is kosher :)
     
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    i don't sacrifice anything to be with my lady friend.
    i love being with her.
    i hope she feels the same way.

    if you have to make a big sacrifice or if you feel that way, maybe it's not the right situation. :wink:
     
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    There you go, lady! Love isn't supposed to hurt. Not eating, sleeping, or functioning the way you are used to functioning, is a sign of DIS-function. I saw it in one of my relationships also. Didn't trust a thing he said. Always had the nagging feeling that he was lying but I just couldn't put my finger on it. Making excuses for him to other people. Making me feel unsure of myself when ordinarily I felt pretty darn good! I felt like some other person. But once I got my head back where it needed to be, and got him out of my life, I became me again. Haven't looked back since. :spin:
     
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    I feel you, bruh. But, I didn't take sacrifice as in I have to give this up in order to be with her. I took it as something I just stopped doing because I was with her. For example, if you played ball every Friday evening until 10am because the courts had lights, you'd cut back on the b-ball time and go spend that time with her. That's all. At least, that's how I took it.
     
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    i always had more fun playing ball with her. :love:
     
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    Now that's what I'm talking about, bruh. I never new that would be so much fun until I was asked to come out and play one night. It reminded me of stick ball...da ladies vs da fellas. When you got to the base, they ladies would feel on us. :lol: We played this game in broad daylight. :lol:
     
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    I think that in a relationships (depending on your partner) you'll have to sacrifice somethings.

    I would not want to be with someone that is always out clubbing, drinking and partying with "girlfriends". I'm not going to try to change anyone so I just won't get with someone that does these things. Get all that crap out of your system before you try to tie me down. In a ralationship with me there are things that are definately off-limits because your lifestyle affects me if we are together....period.
     
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