i helped a young sister get on to the bus today. she had three babies and a shopping cart full of food that was too heavy for her to get up on the bus. no man. this is what a man is for: a man is for to help you, not just to screw you. a man is for helping you get that food home from the market. a man is for getting the kids up to school. watch them when you need it. a man is for seeing that they get what they need. real manhood starts after the child is born. that is what separates the men from the boys. the media has fooled us into thinking it is all about romance. we think we just have to make sweet love and move on. after all, that is what we see in the movies. that is a trick. that concept has damaged our community. romance is counter revolutionary. black men and women forming a solid unit that can endure is what it is really all about. we got to like each other. we got to have mature values. we got to deal with our resposibility. romance novels have screwed everybody up. young women don't know what real man hood is and so they go for what they see in the stories. young men never see a real man taking care of business. just "kool fools" kung fu fighting. nobody ever changes a diaper in the movies. well real love is being willing to change diapers for as long as it takes just to be with her. romance is counter revolutionary. we need to turn off the TV.