This topic deals with long term relationships where one or both partners engage in infidelity. I've been gone for a minute. But, during that time I did a little research. Several peeps in my circle of friends are in unhappy relationships, getting divorced and or having affairs. Those of you who Know my story realize I fall in to one of these categories. My research which did not start out that way(I was just venting my pain)consisted of choosing the right moment to confront several of these individuals and ask why their relationships failed or were failing. Almost all of the brothers complained of the sex becoming less frequent. The time frame for this was a 3-5 yr mark. Now sisters please do not get angry? There were only 2 women who weren't related to me that spoke what I perceived to be pure honesty. All together there were 4. The other two being relatives. When I asked why the sex became less frequent? All agreed they just wasn't feeling sexual towards their man. When I probed further all but 1 express desire for another man. Someone they knew or just being open to someone different. I suspect my cousins were already in an affair. Here's my question. 1.Ladies, Is the idea of women being naturally monogamous a myth? 2. If it is then why do women deny themselves sexual fulfillment. Is it because of men and our insecurity dealing with paternity? The stigma of being called for a better word loose? I believe there's something to this. How do we explain the majority of divorces and separations having been initiated by women.