Black Relationships : relationship problems

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  1. ms. cheeks

    ms. cheeks New Member MEMBER

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    Me and my friend of almost three years told each other how we felt about each other and everything was going find. He didn't commit because he had just got a relationship where he was hurt and didn't want to rush into anything. We made a commitment not to see no one else but each other. i know sounds like a commitment. anyway two n a half weeks ago i stop hearing from him i call him all day everyday and no response. i did talk to him three times. first he told me he was getting his self together then the second time he called to thank me for helping him get out of jail the third time he told me he don't be in the house no more because he's outside all day. he basically told me the streets is more important than me. i've been trying to forget him but it is very hard. it all came out of no where. i haven't heard from him since i've written him letters and every thing. i don't know what to do or how to forget him everything reminds me of him.
     
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    welcome within

    welcome to destee.com welcome from above w/luv

    now i truely feel you here and it seem like he used you
    to his point and now he feel more relax ...yes in direct he
    love the street more then you , he use the thing of being hurt
    and this relationship thing to get by on you ..your heart fell for it

    what can you do now !!
    this feeling you pose is a myth of notions that has cast
    a wanna be bond you so wish could be but as you can see
    not blindly that it will not be he has put you in his pass i
    tell you please do the same he's not the mate you heart so
    wants , why hurt or take mess form him when a true guy is awaiting your hand
    see no calls , no return of letters , always out !!
    it's simply over and you now have to face that
    everything reminds you of him ......no no !!!
    it's all in ya mind because you care not to let him go
    it's you hurting self
    wash your hands clean and pray to thou father above to
    guide ya humble soul to a better path of life
    best thing to do is getwith someone who care and wish
    to be with you and you will forget him fast
    i hope you can work out your mental mindful thoughts of him
    first how can you feel or love one that care less
    what is it that you can't see he's gone on in life
    why is it that ya mind can't move forward too like he did
    you see there's no love ,
    u know he don't care
    why break self heart over a guy that's only a myth
    the reality is you need to ask GOD for the strenght
    for the weakness of feelings that's not equal posed
    you are better and far more then what one has made you to be your heart is of love and respect but your mind lay in the wrong place .............sistah let go !!!
    i wish you the best in this untrue love splat....
    our sistah's here have a chat to help out with things like this
    daily here round 8 pm come check them out and surely they can help you and your mind forget the myth of his actions
    they are at www.********/chat every night at 8 p.m.
    GOOD LUCK
    hope to hear more from you and how u made it pass the emotional heartfelt love for him that is only a dream
    welcome again within the family
     
  3. j'hiah

    j'hiah Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    seems you've paid him more attention than you've paid to yourself and what makes you happy.
    reverse that.
    spend time with yourself.
    basically, love yourself and do what interests you.
    surely, there's something.
     
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    Hi ms. cheeks

    It was great to see you in Sister Chat last night and welcome to our forums!

    I'm sorry to read that you're not happy with your relationship with your friend. I know that it can be painful to want someone more than they want you. But I can appreciate what your friend has told you he's trying to do because I think it's important for him to do that if you're ever to have a truly meaningful relationship together.

    I know exercising patience can be a challenge for many of us sometimes, but do try to be at the moment. But I also agree with j'hiah and Rich, make time for yourself--discover some hobbies, spend time with friends or just be a good friend to yourself. Eventually, time will tell what it is that you have to work with. In the meantime, be good to yourself!

    Peace and hope to see you in Sister Chat again real soon! :heart:
     
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    yaphet al-wynn Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Look, I'm not trying to bring you any more pain. You got your answer with the guy. As others say, get involved in something that interests you. It'll be hard as it is now, but your hurt will fade in time. In the meantime-real happiness may be on its way to your doorstep.
     
  6. ms. cheeks

    ms. cheeks New Member MEMBER

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    i've been telling my self the same thing over and over again i think i needed to hear it from some one else. i am moving on slowly but surely. i'm actually moving much faster than i expected. i've talked to him and i've written him a letter. the first letter was about not letting him go for nothing i'm talking stalking the whole nine yards.m the second letter is about forgetting him n moving on i told him i was moving n getting married n not to call me again. i'm doing a whole lot better. thank u so much i wish i would have read it sooner.
     
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    ms. cheeks New Member MEMBER

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    all of u r right . i wish i wouldn't have been so stupid. any body who know me can tell you i've never got caught up like this i never let any one get that close because i could see through them but i slipped i have learned my lesson n will keep my eyes opened next time. i have stopped calling him so much now i call twice a week instead of every half hour. maybe by next week or month iwould have stopped all together.
     
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    No ms. cheeks daring your heart for love is never stupid!

    I broke my heart many times before i met my man. The hurt you have now must be awfful but there will be somebody out there who can appreciate you. Live is learning and this guy is just making you ready to appreciate a good man who is not playing stupid little pathetic immature boysgames and is not afraid to commit because it comes natural.

    Don't give up hope
     
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    ms. cheeks New Member MEMBER

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    THANKS INDRA FOR UR WORDS I'M NOT GIVING UP HOPE JUST NOT LOOKING FOR NO ONE SPECIAL RIGHT NOW. I HAVE TALKED TO HIM SINCE AND I TOLD HIM I'M DONE THAT WE CAN JUST BE FRIENDS AND THAT I'LL CALL EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE TO MAKE SURE HE IS OK N OUT OF TROUBLE.
     
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    my sistah ya never stupid we just make wrong moves
    sometime that hurts but we always mend in the end and move forward to a better love a new life and stand tall
    the healing starts now !
    call every now and then to say hello as time goes by you will
    be less involve one the true one come into your life
    we all have or had to cross this same road and so many yet have come to this twisted road now you can help the next one over this block in the path
    wishing you all the best and happiness
     
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