Black Relationships : Relationship Problems

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  1. DestinyLove222

    DestinyLove222 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Me and my ex boyfriend are in love with each other. We talk on the phone everyday. But the problem is he's got a girlfriend. So what should I do? Please help me I would APPRECIATE:(
     
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    Regina Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    What are your ages? If your ex-boyfriend is so in love with you, why does he have a girlfriend? Do you have feelings for him now that you feel he has another love?

    Why would you want to be the other girl/woman?
     
  3. DestinyLove222

    DestinyLove222 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    We are 16 and 17. I love him very much and no i dont wanna be the other woman. That's why i hope he break up with her and get with me soon
     
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    $$RICH$$ Lyon King Admin. STAFF

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    young sistah......... trouble mind
    this guy say he love you but have a girlfriend listen and be wise
    he' don't love you just what you have to offer i say let go and
    fast because he will not be faithful to you nor the other girl
    you are on the outside looking in this makes it very hard
    focus on finishing school and set your goals for your future
    first then take time to seek love allow ya mind to be on what
    career you seek........ now he was an ex-of yours why did you
    two break up in the first place and right now their no way he can
    truely love you the words come fast and easy but the true meanning is different .......
    my dear i say drop the thoughts at this point and move on
    this will bring you heart felt problems down the line
    think about what you real want in life their is time ahead for this
    look at your schooling & career first
    but to love is to be faithful & honesty with trust
    how can you trust a guy that has another ??
    you are setting self up for a destructional bliss he will not be
    what you wish him to be and his gameful play will hurt
    so no need to get in the game ....move forward and get someone
    who can be of more respect to you and your feelings
    if he love you so why haven't he dropped the other girl???
    if he love you why haven't he showed you he's for you ???
    if he respect you then he wouldn't come to you til his pass
    is behind him , but you go in facing the facts he's with another
    and for sure this not love this call the love game !!
    sweetie let it go and move forward in life this not it
    but if ya heart and emotions your feelings say you can change
    things and you love him deep within i wish you luck on this
    journey may blessing be upon u .........
    do think about it and see with your third eye he's not the mate
    you lone for ........GOOD LUCK mindful thoughts

    listen to the song by:: Sam Cook
    she was only 16 .
     
  5. Regina

    Regina Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Young sister, at your age, don't get too serious. You both are still so young.

    Why would he break up with his other girlfriend? He has the best of both worlds, two girlfriends. Does his girlfriend know that he is interested in you?

    If you want a boyfriend, find someone else to date. Don't subject yourself to unnecessary heartache.

    Take care of yourself and don't get in a competition with her to try to win him.
     
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    $$RICH$$ Lyon King Admin. STAFF

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    solo agree he's not worthy of you think and stay on school
    and your career before you think about this don't become
    to deep into a myth of what is and date a guy worthy of you.
     
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    Hi Destiny... :wave:

    I'm glad that you decided to come here to ask for advice. Sister Regina and Brother Rich have given you some very sound information that I hope you take seriously.

    Aaahh yes, young love can be just as serious as love between older people. The only difference might be that older people may have a bit more experience than people your age when dealing with matters of the heart.

    It seems as though you're about to learn another of life's most valuable lessons--patience and some wisdom. Ask yourself the question:

    1. IF your ex-boyfriend likes you so much that you talk to each other every day, then why is he with someone else?

    2. IF you were in the other girl's shoes, how would YOU feel?

    3. IF he can do this to her, then why would you think he wouldn't do it to you? Because he might say so?

    4. IF he would never become your boyfriend ever again, what's the worse thing that would happen to you?

    Tell us more about yourself Destiny. What type of student are you? Assuming you're still in high school, do you want to go to college when you finish? Have you selected a major? If so, what is it?

    These are questions that can get you much farther in life than worrying about getting your ex-boyfriend back, don't you agree?

    We look forward to hearing from you again! Peace! :)
     
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    DON'T DO IT !!!!!!111 :wave:....what goes around comesaround n one day........he could do it to you
     
  9. SugarBrown

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    you know what you SHOULD do. what you're looking for is some sort of comfort through the hard times, or even a stamp of approval to do the wrong thing (i.e. be the side dish).

    but you know what you SHOULD do, don't you? ;)
     
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    What Should I do

    What should I do?:)
     
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