Black People : Real Talk From A Real Brother

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  1. Nasheed

    Nasheed Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I Received this via email from my sister, enjoy, I did


    This is a good read…..enjoy!
    White Woman's Opinion of Black Women

    White women's opinion of black women & a brother's response

    Please take a moment and read this. Pretty Deep! Thumbs up to this black man.

    Enjoy.

    It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men. I'm so glad
    she got what she asked for (and more) !!!

    Dear Jamie:

    I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.

    I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our relationship.

    My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.

    Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes.

    I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them.

    Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius , Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...

    I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and
    we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.

    Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA

    RESPONSE

    Dear Jamie:

    I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.

    Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.

    I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy.

    The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone
    who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.

    Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by
    the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control.

    I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to
    set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women.

    Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth 'Babyface' Edmonds ,
    Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And,to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spotlight, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted
    Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.

    I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember,
    when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt , you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history!

    It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.

    It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman.
    And, through all this, Still They Rise!

    It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not
    the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them.

    Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women.

    I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so
    proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin?
    Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous?

    I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.

    BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children.

    Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately,
    you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

    No offense taken, none given.

    Signed, Black Royalty

    Wow!! We must pass this on to make the day of the Black Queens





    Lynnette Scott, CMC
    Deputy City Clerk
    City
     
  2. AAlicia25

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    This is a tricky topic. Everyone is different; some may like oranges others may like mangos. It does not matter where love comes from only that someone has a special spot reserved just for you in their heart. ‘A Disgusted Girl From VA’ should be thankful she has loving arms to go home to at night and not try to psychoanalyze the women of his race. I understand she is frustrated from getting rude looks from black women but that’s just part of having a man in your life. I agree with Black Royalty when he states, “I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks.” She may be threatened that one day her man might actually leave her for an African- American woman. But, hey isn’t that every woman’s fear that their man might leave her for someone he has more in common with?

    Whenever I have a guy in my life I usually get two responses from other females no matter what race or age: #1. rude behavior and nasty looks (just like A Disgusted White Girl) or #2. They smile all up in my face, but the very second I step away they push all up on MY man. I believe she should deal with it. She is so busy looking at the responses she gets from us that she may not even notice women from her or other races trying to get with him. Women are women, we love men. Men are men, they love women too! So instead of focusing her attention and feeling threatened by black women she needs to pay attention to her man and what he’s doing. How do we even know that HE isn’t giving her reasons to be uneasy, maybe he’s showing signs that he's lusting after black women? He is very open minded in the first place to date a Caucasian woman, which means the brotha doesn’t discriminate, and he’s open to ALL choices! Before she points a finger for her unhappiness maybe she should check her relationship.

    I do believe there are black men who want us black women, but they come few and far apart. I say this because (many) black men seem to not want black women. I have not encountered a black man that believes, or can show through his actions, that a black woman can completely blow his mind in her true form, meaning: usually (many) black men are attracted to women who slab on tons of makeup and process their natural texture hair to make it straight. This makes me so sad because dark skin men completely take my breath away; dark skin drives me crazy! I have yet to find a dark skin man whose eyes did not light up when they saw a Hispanic, Asian, or Indian woman. I am not against inter-racial dating, AT ALL, I'm just saying it’s hard for me to find the man of my dreams who can view me the same way, and I would without a doubt adore him... Unfortunately this kind of man (many not all) that I strongly desire seems to subconsciously hate themselves, because they do not crave, desire, love and yearn for the very women they came from. So, with that said, I will conform and assimilate! If I have to slab on tons of makeup and wear fake straight hair (because I will be d@*ned if I ever chemically straighten my real hair), to get me a handsome, deep dark skinned man, then by all means I will be Revlon's and Sally's Beauty Supply's BEST COSTUMER! I cannot get enough of black men and I will do whatever it takes to fall asleep every night next to a sweet deep dark chocolaty, black man and hopefully one day husband. Even if that means that I have to change my appearances. I love being a black woman, but I want a black man, too.

    It is all a competition. Woman verses woman and man verses man. It’s definitely hard to find and then form a bond with a good person but when you do you should not have to worry, fight, fuss or feel threatened because you should know that you are safely and securely kept in their heart. If it’s a struggle loving someone then maybe it is not a right fit.
     
  3. river

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    Hey brotha Nasheed,

    This letter has been making the rounds for several years now. It's still good. And so true.

    I had a similar experience when a white cat tried to tell me the reason he likes Black woman (I didn't ask him all that) is because white women are so mean. Needless to say I did not go for this. I want someone who likes me because he like me, not because he doesn't like someone else. Knowamsane? A woman who respects herself and feels confident her relationship will not feel the need to write a letter such as this.
     
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    In the Spirit of Sankofa!




    river,
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    Here's a simple answer to all the brothers & sisters about dating................KEEP IT BLACK!
    Problem solved.
     
  6. Jazzytude

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    Peace and Bless

    I am relieved that their are brothers out there who will put theses misconceptions to rest. The white women should know that the stares.... will slow down when the Black family gets in a better position around the world. Pay reperations and stop inslaving blacks through the prision system.

    How can these brothers go around spitting this vomit to them racists daughters...when we are in the position we are in as a whole.

    For real some of these brothers needs to be checked. I blame him/them(the brother) who allows this kind of bull to come out of these greedy tail women mouths. When I read or here this I think about how much these brothers hate us(Black women). So in turn I know no matter how much money he has, how fine or cute he is....if he feels this way about Black Women then he must really hate hiself. So then you have two hateful people whose raising mixed up kids with hate in their heart for the Black wombman!

    THIS IS A CRIME AGAINST YOUR OWN ESPECIALLY IN THESE TIMES!!!!!!!!!!!

    PEACE:yesno:
     
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    I rembmer this from some years back. I was told that it was later found out that the article was a sham. Not really written by a white woman but written to get the attention of the magazine, sales. I forget what magazine it was.


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