Black Relationships : R Married Men Eligible Bachelors?

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  1. PositiveMindset

    PositiveMindset Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Sisters, this question is nagging at my mind.

    A few days ago, I had a conversation with my older brother who is married about women who seem to be after him because he is married.

    I've known a few married brothers who have told me the same thing.

    It seems to them that they get more play now that they are married than they did when they were single.

    Why is that?

    Would U ever kick it with a married man? If so, why?

    Please help me with this, I really wanna know.
     
  2. jamesfrmphilly

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    you don't have to be married.
    i get flashing eyes and smiles ALL the time when i walk with my girlfriend.
     
  3. PositiveMindset

    PositiveMindset Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Right, I got U.

    Married, dating, even just kicking it with a female friend gets the looks.

    Why?
     
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    NO!

    For those who think they are...THE DEVIL IS A LIAR

    being married and being a bachelor are two totaly different things.
    It is funny how some women find married men more appealing but we know that it's the devils job to lie, steal, cheat, and destroy. God brought 1 man and 1 woman together before he even gave us the church. To me that means Marriage is very, VERY special to GOD. It is so puzzling why would anyone would think breaking that bond is ok. Some try to justify foolish reasons for getting involved with married people, but I have one reason that should make anyone think twice. Just know that if you havn't asked for forgivness, one day you will have for face God with your actions. I just know I don't want to be before God knowing that I have shamed and disappointed him. People have far too long ignored the reasons God created marriage. Marriage is a bond meant for 1 MAN and 1 WOMAN..last time I counted that's TWO. If you date a married man or woman your helping to destroy the bond God created and purpose HE intended for man. I understand people make mistakes, but just don't keep thinking that in anyway you are justified to place yourself in ANY marriage for ANY reason.
     
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    i agree james...when in female company i get more looks then when by myself
    hopefully some women can enlighten us brothers in terms of why that is...
    good topic positive ms...
    one love
    khasm
     
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    I've heard it said that woman aren't interested in a man unless another woman wants him as well. I don't know if this is true. However it doesn't really matter if women come on to married/committed men...nothing will happen unless the guy gives in to temptation.
     
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    My answer is no, but to the woman out there who is man hunting, the answer is a potential yes. A married man says something to women that they no longer have to guess about or wonder. It tells her that this is a man who is willing to be committed, responsible, is potentially settled and is serious mate material...even though none of this may or may not be true.

    The point is that he is like fresh game to her. Her next job becomes to find out about the woman or wife as a means of knowing if she is capable of subplanting the wife by what she may or may not be doing for her husband. She also needs to know if the man is content with what he has or is he consciously or subcosciously looking for something potentially better.

    The bottom line is that to this woman, the married man is a bachelor if she desires him for herself.
     
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    hyell no!! they were eligible bachelors b4 they were married. lf they choose to creep then they're eligible carcasses.
     
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    So in other words, if they choose to play they have to pay? Okay, I can go with that...but what happens if they just up and admit that the fire isn't there anymore and they want to go their own way?
     
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    Then they should do their wife/partner a favor
    by being a man about it and contacting
    a divorce attorney. Let the woman get on with her life...
    she'll be better off w/o him.

    Much...
    Peace & Love
    Akilah :peace:
     
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