I'm in my thirties and have never had a boyfriend. I am not a virgin either and always had friends & lovers but never the both together. I never had a boyfriend because I always thought that when I do go for it, I'd go for it 100% and I just haven't found that available person I found worthy of it. I'm a huge romantic, but I know there will be good as well as the bad. The bad is why I figure I need to choose someone who I truly feel as if I'd be willing to experience the bad with and do the work to make it through. I've been celibate for a number of years now as well because the risks are too great for one, and two, I'm a lot more concerned with respecting my body. It finally hit me that if I didn't respect or even want to carry on a conversation with the guy, I shouldn't be sharing something so precious with them either. The problem is that I so want to date but find that if I'm dating someone, I'm thinking of it going to the next level. So therefore I can't date a guy I wouldn't want to consider spending a long time in the future with. A friend tells me that I think too much (very guilty as charged) and I just need to date and have fun. Do I need to just start excepting dates without thinking of where it might lead? Stop asking so many questions up front and wait until the date? What are some rules for successful dating?