Black Relationships : $$$, Power, Respect

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  1. phynxofkemet

    phynxofkemet Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    This is a question for the members who have had successful relationships long term:

    How do two people handle finances when they come together to form a union?
    What if there is credit disparity and cash flow disparity between them?

    Is it reasonable for one partner to handle paying the bills or should this be a joint project?

    How to handle conflicts over money and income?

    How do you know when your partner is a workaholic?

    Should partners equally support and take an interest in the other's financial well being, or should this area be private and a self-responsibility?

    How to define financial abuse between partners?

    During a period of early parenting when one partner remains at home what are the financial obligations of that partner?



     
  2. Jazzytude

    Jazzytude Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    hmmmm

    Even if the women/male is not working ...they should have equal say in how the money is spent...FOR REAL! It is dangerous when money is being used to dictate lots of things...so that family and stability element is vital.

    I will be checking this post out!
     
  3. Khasm13

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    i've had this convo b4...many times...with people old and young...

    seems the general consensus is...
    everyone has strengths and weaknesses...
    a good lasting relationship lets the individuals have the last say so in whatever area they are stronger than the other...

    this is a blueprint that i will follow when i meet the right one...

    one love
    khasm
     
  4. phynxofkemet

    phynxofkemet Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    So,....

    if you were making the biggest salary, but your partner/wife was better at managing money you would allow her to be the accountant?

    Out of curiosity how many men in the forum would be comfortable handing their paycheques over to their wives?
     
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    not all of my skrilla...

    but if she was better with money than me...
    i would give up more than enough 4 the billz...

    one love
    khasm
     
  6. Bootzey

    Bootzey Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    This is a question for the members who have had successful relationships long term:

    How do two people handle finances when they come together to form a union?
    My Husband and I used to keep our finances separate, not for any other reason but we had lives before marriage and just didn't see the need to merge.


    What if there is credit disparity and cash flow disparity between them?
    One of us would make up each other's lack. When he was paying off his student loans I paid more of the bills.


    Is it reasonable for one partner to handle paying the bills or should this be a joint project?
    Depends on the individual incomes. If one can handle it then go for it.


    How to handle conflicts over money and income?
    We didn't have conflicts because stuff was so separate. He paid the mortgage and I paid the utilities and food. Personal bills were paid by the originator

    How do you know when your partner is a workaholic? n/a

    Should partners equally support and take an interest in the other's financial well being, or should this area be private and a self-responsibility?
    Depends on the financial health of the individuals and whether or not each party has the aptitude


    How to define financial abuse between partners?
    Lying about finances or holding back necessary information

    During a period of early parenting when one partner remains at home what are the financial obligations of that partner?
    None. How can there be when that partner is generating no income. Now if income is being generated by that individual, then they need to decide... together... what their responsibility should be.


    Peace
     
  7. anAfrican

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    if it is desired to remain as if there are two people in the house; don't get married.

    marriage is a UNION; two people coming together to create ONE Family.

    all energies of both parties, plus the children as they come along, must needs be fully devoted to the FAMILY. thinking in terms of the relative merits of one contribution "over"/"against"/"in addition to" the other keeps the concept of "separation" in the Family. while this may work, and while it may even look like it is working "harmoniously", it is, in fact, working just as well as the Global African Family is working today.
     
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