Black Relationships : Pornography: Betrayal or Harmless?

[jamesfrmphilly]

Me personally, I think that if both of you are fine with it, then cool. If you come into a relationship, knowing that the other person despises it and doesn't want it looked up, and you agree with it, but yet go behind their back and look it up anyway, then it's very dishonest and the question will come up of why get with someone who you know has an issue with it. I personally also feel that it's detrimental to a relationship and sex life especially if one person strongly opposes it. Hope this answers your question.

why are you policing other people's relationships ?

 

[jamesfrmphilly]

Well if the person is telling you that they don't need it once they're with someone, it isn't a matter of whether or not someone gets with someone who is "into", especially if they have made it clear that they were only doing it because they were single. But it's a waste of time to tell someone all of that only to still be looking it up. At that point you have lied to that person when you should have been up front in the first place.

your issue is not porno, it is lying.

 

[legit-writer]

your issue is not porno, it is lying.

I still personally despise it and made it very clear. As for policing other peoples relationships, it sounds to me you’re assuming which is nothing new with you. But I digress.

 

[frankster]

Well if the person is telling you that they don't need it once they're with someone,

Then Porn would be a substitute for sex....but if porn is a form of entertainment then it would not matter if they are with someone or not.
Porn is a poor substitute for sex it only lead to Frustration and Unfulfillment...The Self Gratification that porn provides robs one of Self Control and True Fulfillment.

it isn't a matter of whether or not someone gets with someone who is "into", especially if they have made it clear that they were only doing it because they were single.

Even worse porn then would be a substitute for relationships...human beings are social creatures

But it's a waste of time to tell someone all of that only to still be looking it up.

If porn is a substitute for either sex or relationships....that individual might be addicted to porn and become a sexual deviant and or socially dysfunctional.
The problem is not porn but the addiction.

At that point you have lied to that person when you should have been up front in the first place.

Addiction means loss of Self.....discipline, control, respect, dignity and often blurs the lines between Right and Wrong

 

[jamesfrmphilly]

it sounds to me you’re assuming which is nothing new with you.

i simply read what you write.