karmashines said:I don't really care for some of the roles Monique chooses, but on the same token I think the movie "Phat Girlz" is a step in a right direction in getting women to love themselves whether or not they fit the media image. I haven't seen it yet, but from the commrecials she tells the story of the tribulations of both fat women and a 'skinny' woman in terms of accepting who they are.
Truth be told, most women are on a dieting crusade at some point in their lives, whether they are shaped like a "beach ball" or like a "pear." For example, when I was 13, I started dieting thinking I was 'fat'... I also hated the lower half of my body, the big thighs, hips and butt. Most women are taught that if you don't look like what is on T.V. and in the magazines, you are inferior. Men don't go through this. There are the body builders and what not, but how many women give their men an ultimatum... if you don't look like so and so body builder, I'm not going to love you and I'll divorce you? How many women say men that don't have body builder figures must be lazy and don't care for themselves because they won't put the effort necessary to achieve that? How many women publically disdain men that don't look like body-builders?
But anyway, people on the boards have said why don't fat women do something to change their image... well, here you go. But even when they do, they're still not taken seriously because people are too busy judging the FAT and not the overall message, which is LOVING YOURSELF. A man can be listened to whether he's a body builder, fat, scrawny or average... but a woman only gets listened to if she is a size 6.
I sympathize with the sadness that overweight women deal with Karmashines. It still does not excuse the fact in most cases, it is self induced.
As far as fat men go. Fat men go through a certain amount of sadness also.
I believe a woman has a right to prefer a man in reasonable shape. There are no known "male" p.c.o.s. patients so men have less of an excuse.