@Destee and the moderators First if I've stuck this in the wrong place I'm sorry - maybe you could delete it if I have - just didn't see where else to put it I am genuinely sorry if I've been causing waves and disruption or getting on people's nerves or anything. I know people can find me annoying / irritating and so on - but I am honestly not trying to be. I realize now it was dumb of me not to have started my thread in the inter-racial one - I didn't actually realize that the threads separated out at the top were for posting stuff into to. I also realize that I can take offence at things too easily and can snap back at people at times if I believe they've been getting at me - so I'm sorry if I crossed the line the other day with Hyperkill, but I just got mad at what he'd said. I also realise like you say that this is a site for black people not mixed people and I am not trying to make any effect on that by my being here. I know that people's opinions on who/what I am will be different and I am genuinely not trying to wind anybody up who thinks I'm just a white girl who shouldn't really be here and I will try my best to shut up straight away if I see that happening. I am honestly just trying to find out how black folk see me, how I should see them and learn about that part of me as I do feel incomplete - and I know that its not meant to be anyone's burden here to help me with that as you all have enough to deal with yourselves. If it would be best for me to avoid mentioning I'm mixed from now on to stop any disruption please let me know. I really do appreciate being able to come here and do not want to get myself banned. I'm not sure who I called stupid, but I will make an apology to whoever they are if you let me know which person I said it to, or if I implied somebody was stupid then I'll do the same.