Black Relationships : PDA - How Much Is Too Much?

Discussion in 'Black Relationships' started by river, Aug 27, 2005.

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When it comes to public displays of affection I like...

  1. Hands off!

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  2. An occasional pat on the back

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  3. Holding hands often

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  4. Being joined at the hip--sit on his lap

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  1. river

    river Watch Her Flow MEMBER

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    Public displays of affection--different peopple have different needs. What do these needs say about a person and the relationship they are in?

    Is it a matter of confidence one way or the other? Confidence not to neeed it? Confidence to do it?

    Is it a matteer of dignity and self-respect?
     
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    its too much when it looks liek sex

    an occasional kiss is ok, hugging.. hand holding.. but tounging down another in public is unnacceptable.. groping.. i mean whrn it gets past pg-13... its too much!
     
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    I agree completely! I also have always felt that excessive public affection has more to do with possession than it does passion.
     
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    I dont care to really see big displays of affection, don't know about the people involved in that.

    Far as for me, don't really like the really kissy kissy, mushy type especially out in public. Don't mind if I'm "in love" but still has to be in moderation in public.

    Never really thought about if the person who is actually making the big display if it involves confidence, but in analyzing a little maybe it does.
    I say this only because I've only had 3 dates w/a guy recently and he's on that mushy crap. Every time I turn around he wants a kiss. Sick of seeing his lips puckered up and poked out. Everything else is nice about him, but no matter how many times I told him to chill he won't. He thinks its showing affection. To soon for all that. Last straw, he started kissing on my neck at a karaoke bar, made my hair stand on end and I'm completely shut down to even wanting to deal w/him anymore. Just been avoiding him lately, now I'm am wondering if it is a confidence thing..... hmmm... interesting. I still don't want him, but never really looked at it like that. Good question
     
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    that says it all right there.
    you don't need no body who don't listen.
    i know i don't.
     
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    Wisdom7 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Exactly. I even told him that he was messing things up by not listening. He said he didn't get what the big deal is. Anyhow didn't matter what I say and how many times. Now he's officially black history in my eyes :garbage:
     
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    another reason.. is im big on dental hieygene*,
    and i dont kiss* on the 1,2,3,4,5,.. or any date after that untill i learn this persons brushing habits,
    and his eating* habits for that matter..
    i dont want his other love,
    in my mouth..
    nor do i want yesterdays dinner.

    Ewww.... :bam:
     
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    jamesfrmphilly going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    i floss, brush and use mouthwash.
    i clean my mouth after every meal.

    can i kiss u?
     
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    :kiss1: :bellydance:


     
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    did i mention that i only have one tooth?
    but it's clean!



    :slobber:
     
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