Black women catch so much flack! We get it from men and we get it from our own--Black women. All too frequently we are loosely but deliberately described in ways that are demeaning and dehumanizing. I wonder what it is that those people see that I don't see. We're often described as aggressive, harsh, loud, stubborn, greedy, irresponsible, whiners, selfish, two-faced, whores, forever PMS'ing man-hating "I don't need you, I can take care of myself" feminists. I've read several threads here and frankly, I don't get it. What is it that makes some people dislike Black women so much? I have seen where Black women are [figuratively speaking] burned at the stake and used as scapegoats for so many things that have gone wrong in our relationships and our communities. Some people are setting us up as the reason for failed marriages, broken homes, sons that are shiftless and no good, daughters that are sexually promiscuous and lacking of morals, men that don't want to get married anymore and we get blamed for Black men that choose to turn to White women or other women of color for comfort and understanding because they can't get those things from her. A mass appeal has been put forward for Black women to face up to our responsibibility for pushing Black men away. To some people, it's obvious, a Black woman will always fall short of their standards and never be good enough unless she changes to become like they want her or thinks she should be. Praise the Lord that some of us don't see things that way. I see a different Black woman and I'd like this thread to pay tribute to her. I see the good wives, the great lovers, the nurturing mothers, the spiritual sisters, the fighters for equality and for freedom, the defenders of our communities and the protectors when there's no man around to do it. I see the grandmothers who are wise and always forgiving. I see the women who go to work everyday because she has to and come home at night tired but with enough energy to take care of the family's needs. I see a women that seldom gets paid a compliment, who fights battles at work and often struggles at home but still gets up the next day and does it all over again. I see the Black woman who has always put the needs of others before her own, and when she tries to take care of herself for a change, she's called "selfish." I see a person that is deserving of respect, gratitude, love and positive recognition. For those that want to pay tribute to the PHENOMENAL BLACK WOMAN, please add your comments, stories, testimonies here. Let's have a celebration... To all my loving sisters in the struggle, I salute you!