Black Parenting : Parents: Does Skimpy Wear Rule Your Daughters?

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  1. Kemetstry

    Kemetstry going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Leggings as pants: 'Cover your butts,' one principal tells girls:

    By Lela Davidson
    A high school principal in Minnetonka, Minn., has declared leggings a distraction and discouraged girls from wearing them at school. Dave Adney sent an email to parents last week requesting that students at Minnetonka High School “keep things covered up.” He says the girls used to wear longer shirts, but the shirts have gotten shorter, and this is a problem.
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    He reiterated his message in a statement to the Star Tribune: "Cover your butts up,” he said. “We're seeing too much."

    Carolyn Miller has seen worse. As a middle school English teacher in Rogers, Ark., she finds low-cut tops and lower-cut jeans revealing rear cleavage or “whale tail” much more distracting.
    “I think leggings and jeggings are perfectly acceptable if worn in a way that covers the student's rear end,” she says.
    Miller added that she is not sure she would notice if a girl’s leggings did not offer full rear coverage. “Making sure student dress is appropriate has to be part of my job, but it certainly isn't at the forefront of my mind,” Miller says. “I usually have bigger fish to fry.”

    Abby Lee is a high school senior from Arkansas who says the start of the legging trend a couple of years ago wasn’t a big deal at her school. “The faculty view was pretty much ‘as long as we can't see your underwear, you're fine.’” She doesn’t think girls should let too much skin show in an academic setting, but finds this kind of policy sexist. “It is more than a bit of a double standard to expect girls to be the ones to prevent 'distractions' with how we dress.”
    Lee is spending her senior year on a Rotary Youth Exchange in Sao Paulo, Brazil, where girls from all over the world wear leggings, either with a skirt or with a regular T-shirt. “It's no more of a distraction here than it would be anywhere else.”

    Girls at Minnetonka High argue that they should be allowed to wear whatever makes them feel comfortable. The principal seems to disagree but insists there is no ban on leggings. This not the first time Adney has worked to maintain standards of propriety. He attracted media attention in 2006 with a series of hilarious videos that warned students about the “dangers of grinding” at the homecoming dance.

    Teenagers in tight-fitting clothes are not the issue, says Miller. She accepts the trend for students but would like to see leggings banned for parents and teachers. “The last thing my students want to see is my middle-aged nastiness,” she said. “That would definitely be a distraction.”
    What do you think: Have leggings become too revealing, or do school administrators need to choose another battle?
    Lela Davidson is the author of Blacklisted from the PTA and Who Peed on My Yoga Mat? Her thoughts on marriage, motherhood, and life-after-40 have appeared in hundreds of magazines, websites and anthologies.

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    1. I have no children, yet.

    2. So long as no one's buttcrack is showing, I don't see the big deal about jeggings. They're like skinny jeans and people wear those....

    3. I don't see the big deal about leggings, either. It's not like people are running around trying wear them with baby tee's and crop tops. You're not supposed to wear leggings with a granny dress.
    You wear them with a short/skirt, dress or shorts....
    It's winter/fall wear.

    4. It's not about 'the boys'. It's moreso about FASHION....
    Men and boys (males) will look and visualize and it doesn't really matter what a woman's got on.
    *shrug*
    Once, I was wearing some regular old Yoga/jogging pants while out and about at the mall. I was in a men's store looking to buy some things for an ex-boyfriend.
    Some guy introduced himself and made some sort of remark about my legs and running. It was a 'clean' comment.
    ...but, really: Why...are you looking at my thighs, sir?
    Pervert.
     
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    LOL!

    Why a man gotta be a pervert for noticing a woman for being a woman? Unless he gave the creep stare the whole time like I witnessed in another thread in this forum.
     
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    Were those yoga/jogging pants as "form-fitting" as leggings?

    Were you also wearing them with a short shirt?

    If so, then the "form" of your thighs were visible via the "snug-ness" of the pants and that guy probably thought you were a "runner" because of the shape/definition he saw in your thighs.

    I wasn't there; but I'm jus' sayn.
     
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    i think women believe they are valued for their sex and not for their character….
     
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    he is looking because you are showing. if you do not show there is nothing to look at.
     
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    Well, not ALL women think/feel so, Bro. James.

    However, this topic is about the dress codes of young GIRLS/teenagers.....an age when self-esteem and social/peer pressures, desires for "acceptance," etc play a huge part in their emotional and psychological development.

    So, THIS is the age to reach them so they don't grow up to be GROWN WOMEN who believe they are only validated by sex and sexuality.
     
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    So, you see leggings/spandex as about fashion and not about showing all the curves?

    lmao I dont think so





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    The problem here is that those arent women. They really are still kids. Why do we keep insisting on assigning adult values on children?





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    Guys dont have to go thru all that to get attention, really





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