Black Parenting : Outdated Sex Ed Dangerous to Kids!

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  1. Kemetstry

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    Students Dangerously Misled By Outdated Sex-Ed Courses, Report Reveals
    Sex, lies, & misinformation.
    By Kristin Wong
    Some might argue that it's up to parents to teach their children about sex, but sex education is nothing new, and research shows that proper sex education actually delays teen sex. But according to a new report from the New York Civil Liberties Union (NYCLU), many schools are teaching sex education courses that are severely outdated.

    The NYCLU's survey of 82 schools found that students are learning gender stereotypes, biases and in some cases, flat out inaccuracies.
    In the NYCLU's “Birds, Bees and Bias: How Absent Sex Ed Standards Fail New York Students,” they examined the textbooks, lesson plans and supplements teachers used to educate 540,000 New York students about sex. Executive director Donna Lieberman summed up the findings in a conference call on Wednesday:
    “Too much is missing. Too much is inaccurate. There are far too many stereotypes and far too much bias."

    When it comes to AIDS education, for example, 44 percent of schools teaching it are using scientifically inaccurate information. According to blog Albany Watch, one district even showed students a diagram that illustrated the timeline of HIV leading to a death sentence. It included an arrow pointing at a tombstone that read "RIP."
    Students were also egregiously misinformed about safe sex. While 80 percent of districts taught some information about condoms, only a third of them provided demonstrations, and some schools were teaching flat-out dangerous misinformation. They told students that condoms containing a certain type of spermicide could prevent the transmission of HIV. But, in actuality, the spermicide they cited (which is still on the market) makes it easier for the HIV virus to spread. According to the report:
    "But for more than a decade, Nonoxynol-9 has been known not to prevent transmission, and to possibly increase HIV transmission in women. Misinformation of this nature is both medically inaccurate and potentially dangerous."

    Furthermore, in one school, students were advised to use condoms only if they were having sex with multiple partners.
    With blunders like this, why teach sex-ed in the first place?

    Less immediately dangerous but potentially harmful to social evolution and students' identity, the NYCLU also found that gender stereotypes were reinforced in much of the curricula. The materials included diagrams of male and female brains, illustrating that men almost exclusively think about sex while women are needy and jealous. While that may be a long-standing gender stereotype (and fodder for 90s standup material), it's generally untrue.
    "Both the state guidance document and the national standards say high school student should learn about gender stereotypes and how stereotypes about gender roles can be limiting for men and women," the report reveals. Further, they add: "The national standards add that middle and high school students should learn about gender identity; gender expression; transgender people, sex stereotypes and gender non-conformity; and that biological sex, gender identity, gender expression and sexual orientation differ."

    And that's another area where these schools have failed, and, I think it's safe to assume, schools across the nation are likely failing. There was relatively no information on lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people. For students questioning their sexuality or gender identity, sex-ed could be a very informative source of guidance. Unfortunately, there's nothing offered.
    The report also found that there were moral overtones to a lot of this information, and in some instances, shame-based messages. In some cases, schools taught that sex is only appropriate within the context of marriage. One textbook read:
    "Waiting until marriage to have sex preserves traditional marriage…Actions that preserve traditional marriage preserve the family."
    So, basically, the message is: don't have sex before marriage or you're ruining your future family

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    Bunch of Homophiles in the School. What's accurate information to them? Teaching the boy to play dress up?
     
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    In my opinion the last line is technically true because if you catch a disease you are ruining the chances of a healthy pregnancy or pregnancy at all. However in all honesty very few people and nobody that I know ever waited until marriage so. I say teach them fools how to use a condom and show them how to put one on, using a banana or cucumber of course...
     
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    As a sexuality and sex education student/instructor this information is highly ACCURATE. It's a shame that schools are not willing to drop their severe "right wing" approach to sex education in public schools. What this article does not point out is the fact that the REASON why the education of our children in this area, sex, is due to RELIGIOUS beliefs. So parents don't want their children being taught in public schools about sex, especially if they are religious, which is there right, however, stats show that these children are not being taught at home either. That being said our children are at risk.

    Mis-education and outdated materials put children at RISK. The USA has the HIGHEST STD and teen pregnancy rate in the WORLD. Some advanced European countries changed their sex education programs to fit the times and their rates decreased so much that they are now leading the WORLD in low teen pregnancies and STD. Why aren't we following suit?:thinking:

    My question would be: Why is the US so darn afraid of empowering our children? Sex before marriage is not unheard of, also not a bad idea, however that is a personal OPINION, one a parent should explain or at least express to their child with a WHY. For the school's book to suggest such a thing is a control method. Shame is a control method. Also, not approaching topics such as gender and the different kinds of sexuality that is present and being talked about in 2012 is another detriment. It's not like our children are NEVER exposed. You have TV, Radio, magazines, songs, their friends, etc.

    It needs to be addressed.Not only that, SEXUALITY needs to be taught in schools as part of the curriculum in my opinion. Wonderful to teach children about how a girl can get pregnant, when boys experience nocturnal emissions etc. But that is not all of what SEX is comprised of. It is about pleasure. When children's pituitary glands kick in with a few other chemicals it's about what makes them feel pleasure, they are not thinking about making a baby. Therefore in my opinion young girls and boys need to be taught how their bodies work, options in sexual expression (meaning masturbation vs "making out"), birth control ( for boys and for girls... oh! did you know that the FDA is getting ready to endorse a birth control pill for men/boys??) STI's.

    Condoms need to be made available in schools. Peer support needs to be enacted so that children can create "buddy" systems for appropriate and safe sexual behaviors among their peers. Parents have to step up to the plate and TALK to their kids about these things to support their growth and development and if a parent can't find the words then they should be offered classes as well.

    To me it has to hit ALL of the community. Not just public schools. Parents, government, Teachers, Principles, Teens, Nurses and or certified sexuality instructors ( moi), dare I say your church? Hmmm
    :thinking: need to create a community to enlighten, educate, support and empower everyone! That way we all have a win/win situation instead of a win/loose.
     
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    While I can certainly respect your opinion on the last quote, I have to say that this will only work for those individuals who are; 1. Religious. 2. heterosexual. More often than not current stats show that no matter the religious belief when HORMONES call, teaching abstinence does NOT WORK. Not to mention that in the AA community according to the recent CDC reports, many women and men have STI'S and are passing it onto their partners, so I don't see how being married or telling children to wait until they are married makes them any "safer" than the population that don't. :thinking:
     
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    GREAT post Khemistry!
     
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    Im not saying they should wait until they are married I actually agree with you. I think they need to be taught how to use condoms. Im also saying that STIs can definitely affect your family married or not. These kids not only need to be taught sexual health and safety but how to choose a partner and stick with em. But ur absolutely right
     
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    lol

    We are PC today. It's all over. We havent reconciled this yet.






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    You dont feel that showing the potential detrimental consequences does that?






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    Because the local legislatures mandate it. It is they that controll the schools and their funding. Moreover, they tend to reflect the community as a whole. Therefore, your views may be a minority vocally.

    This is incorrect. Teen pregnancy is way down all across the board. It is assumed, largely because there is no money in having oow kids and it doesnt bring the perceived independence.

    By definition, children dont have the ability to make proper adult decisions. Thus expecting them to do so is no less than playing with fire. And there is plenty of data to back this up






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