Remain open.. like a flower spreading for more sunlight. Remain. There is a beauty in the silence. Only a few can see and hear. Some flowers open just enough so certain one's can drink of the nectar. Only a hummingbird can drink from a honeysuckle flower Internal External..love is the same. Overcoming each is a nerving strain. Internal churning burning heart beating mess. External feeling the pounding of my chest. Sweating on my forehead. Hands getting cold. Get a hold of the breathing your words won't unfold. Tell her how much you need her and care. Let her know that you should be there. In her life. In her world. In her heart in her mind. While the above is very true. You have to just be comfortable that you are doing your best. Non of us sit as representatives of an entire race. This a false and misleading understanding. You know people of all races that don't act the same, be it Racist, Fascist, Bigot, or Sexist You can't come no straighter than this.