Black People : online love?(not a poem, just need some light of wisdom to be shone down upon me)

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  1. ladybug

    ladybug Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Afridancr Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    my two cents

    In my past experience with so called *online (and offline) love*, I've learned that if it seems too good to be true, it probably is!! You and this man can have incredible conversation and you may feel like you've known each other for years but, once you meet that vibe can change.
    Three suggestions based on my own experience:

    1) don't go in with pre-conceived notions about this man because he may not be all that he seems

    2) keep your guard up. However, when it comes to meeting someone new, you cannot judge them based on your past relationships. They are not the people you were involved with in the past. it doesn't give him a fair chance to get to know you and *love* you IF he is one of the good guys

    (BUT...be on the look out for red flags)

    3) last but not least *PRAY* and when the Lord God speaks LISTEN!!!



    This advise is not just for you but for me also!!! I've got some *issues* of my own.

    Thank you for helping me remember and practice what I preach!
     
  3. 8th wonder

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    The first time I read this I thought... I AINT TOUCH'N IT!
    (LOL)

    I thought about it for a moment... And i came back to say..
    I believe all things are possible.. Friendship and Love. If you have emotional baggage from past relationships, it will follow you no matter where you meet this person. I think as women we are so used to being "chosen" by men primarily on the basis of our visual that we don't think its even possible to have something good that comes from another direction.
    I think you should search your mind and your heart and free yourself of the misconceptions placed by society...you also might want to free your self of the emotional bondage left by those past relationships so that you can really have something "good" to offer to someone else. Hope this helps..

    8th
     
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    Afridancr Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    8th...

    Wasn't expecting it but, your reply has touched a nerve! It's all for the good though. Thank you for being the woman that you are~~friendly, giving, spiritual and filled with wisdom.
     
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    Afri,
    YOU my dear sista friend....

    always seem to leave me in tears.... Do you even realize the gifts God is giving to you?
    You are so Beautiful.... Powerful...
    Your road will undoubtedly be a testimony
    I wish you could see what i see....

    ~feel a piece coming on~

    8th!
     
  6. dnommo

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    i shall wait a little longer before i speak on this piece for my wifey has spoken so much...
     
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    Afridancr Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    8th~

    Head bowed down
    praying for God to
    open my eyes and reveal to me
    this
    beauty~
    this
    positivity~
    that I
    obviously fail to see.

    I have my bible with me now
    give me us (lady and myself a scripture)
     
  8. dnommo

    dnommo Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    okay...i stayed quiet this long so i hope you don't mind a bro's point of view. this is for ladybug, afri and anyone else who ask the same question.

    when you address the concept of online dating you encounter one major risk...the fact that you don't know who you are really talking to. this is where a strong prayer life and deep spiritual relationship with GOD comes in. you have to first trust that HE would not bring to you anyone who is not worthy of what GOD is preparing you for. second you must know that the relationship will be a testimony to what GOD will do in your life.

    Faith is the key for it requires that we allow GOD to search our hearts so that what we desire is what HE desires. Past relationships are one thing: PAST RELATIONSHIP. Although you learn lessons from them you should not hold future possibilites on the same level as the past ones for what I believe is that after going through all the stones, rocks and pebbles you will find your diamond...

    Look at each person for who they are...then ask GOD to allow you to see them the way HE does for that is when you will know if this person is worth the effort. "Lonliness" is a concept of the mind designed to instill impatience. "Being alone" is time where GOD can build in you all that he desires. First determine where you are and then go from there.

    The Bible says, "I, the LORD, search the heart, I test the mind, Even to give to each man according to his ways,
    According to the results of his deeds." Jeremiah 17:10

    Allow HIM to do this and the one HE has for you will soon appear. As long as we get in the way and allow our earthly mind consumes us with questions and self created answers then we will never allow the one to some into our lives.

    Remember this,
    YOU do not know who GOD has for you, nor do you know the plans HE has for you so you must rest in HIM and allow HIM to orchestrate your direction. From there that special person will appear.

    The Bible says that "he that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing." the reason for this is, as the words says that "She is more precious than jewels; And nothing you desire compares with her." Proverbs 3:15 You are precious and don't let anyone tell you different...

    Word of advice... STAY HIDDEN FOR YOU MATE WILL SHOW IN GOD'S TIMING NOT YOURS.

    Online friendships are good when you trust and believe in GOD. If they grow into a deeper relationship then trust that it is GOD orchestrating and not your carnel mind seeking closeness with someone. Carnel thinking will lead you down the wrong path everytime. Without a strong foundation rooted in GOD, then there is nothing for the relationship to stand on...

    just ask my boo... :D:

    i pray this will help....
     
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    Afri,

    check your email in about 10min.

    8th!
     
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    Afridancr Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    For me, this has been a great help.
    I need to print this out so that I may have something to reflect on when I feel myself getting caught up in emotions.


    8th~~
    Meet you in 10 minutes!!!!:)
     
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