Black Relationships : On The Job Romance

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  1. CarrieMonet

    CarrieMonet Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Would you date a co-worker? If you wouldn't, what are your reasons from avoiding that kind of relationship?
     
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    I wouldn't rule it out, but I think that romances that take place at work tend to get more people involved in your business. Everyone knows about it and are watching every step you make. If I were employed somewhere and a strong attraction developed between myself and someone else, and we both made a decision to go for it, I would, but would try to be discreet.
     
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    i agree i wouldn't rule it out , but maybe i wouldn't it could bring more stress
    and drama because of so many people watching and voicing what they think
    telling what they see or hear but it also can be a beautiful thing after all
    when it get deep and strong love don't care where it come and hit !
     
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    I have dated a co-worker... very briefly. DRAMA! We handled everything outside of work except for the occasional "call me" and EVERYONE was in the business! Another problem is that a lot of us from that job would hang out over the weekend, go and drink/play vards/etc on pay day.. well, night..a nd if anythign happened between anyone that night, or even looked like it might, it was all over the job the next workday.

    In the future, should I date a co-worker, I'll make sure ot be extremely discreet. Other than that, as long as it doesn't affect your performance, I say go for it. Just bewar that if it doesn't work it, some people are vengeful and will try to destroy your reputation.
     
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    I've dated women from the job on two seperate occasions, and both were major drama. Fights from our personal lives carried over into the workplace, and in the 1st case I quit my job because of my girlfriend. Although my experiences were bad...I think that job romance can work it just requires two mature people. In my case I was in my late teens and early twenties...so I'm sure age played a factor.
     
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    your right Pan .....it can be a beautiful thing if both are of age and
    more mature and able to handle the different things in a work force
    that people say and do also know how to handle the jealous part of it
    but i've seen and been involve in many that fall apart at work, best thing
    is hold friendship with them then a relationship to keeps the fire down and
    less stress at work also keep u with a job and no drama.........................
     
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    I would date a co-worker, as a matter of fact one co-worker turned me down last week and I pulled the married chick from the job this week.
     
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    whewwwwwwwww!! brutha do yo thing but it can get deep and scary!
     
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    You know brother Manasaic....if you keep messing around with married woman, you might end up 6 feet under some day (not everyone just walks away from that type of situation). Even if not (and I'm not wishing that on you), Karma is going to land on you hard one day. I know that these "flings" are voluntarily participated with consenting women, but there are enough women in the world without having to sleep with another man's wife.
     
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    Pan...

    very good words of advice.

    To answer the question, would I date someone who works at my job? HELL NO. There are some FIONEEEEEEEEEEEEE women at my job...off da hook FIONE. But, I would never date them while BOTH of us are working here. Too much to deal with. And besides, this job has a policy that clearly states that you should not date any co-workers. Of course, it has happened here. But, I'd have too much to lose if things were'nt going right or if the relationship ended bitterly.

    It's a :nono: for me.

    Ps. But as soon as I leave this job (temporary layover for now), some of these women are in trouble. :lol: I don't want to get serious....I just want a little fun. :wink: :D
     
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