Do you think it's wrong for your mate to be mentally intimate with someone on line? (I am NOT referring to cybersex). Words can be very powerful, and if you feel that there is so much time spent online that takes his/her love, interest and eroticism elsewhere, then IS it cheating? If he/she cannot understand that this is hurting you and your marriage/relationship would you leave your mate if the online affairs didn't stop? Sharing your heart and mind and desires with someone esle is almost worse than a one night stand. A one night stand is one night. Giving someone a piece of your heart could be FOREVER. Bottom line do you ever feel like your competing with your mate's computer "love" interests? Would it bother you to know that he/she is discussing your relationship with someone he is interested in online?