Offensive Language
I think the family needs to create a real framework for what is called offensive language.
I understand that some members feel like I am offensive every time I speak and that is understood and respected and it will be rectified; I will not make speech that is considered inflammatory and personal, I will make an effort to analyze the thought before it is released; however, I would like to make the following comments.
I do not think someone coming in chat and telling us that THEY'RE EXERPIENCES MAKES THEM AN AUTHORITY AND US IDIOTS is helpful. That is very offensive in itself that someone can come and just say were idiots because we do not know what they know. Comments like these should also be considered offensive in nature.
Moreover, I think that if you present yourself as an authority on an issue. That you should be able to defend your authority, if a family member makes an opinion about your presentation or ideas, that this should not be considered a personal attack. I think personally people try to yell personal foul when someone debates their ideas and not them. People debate my ideas all the time and you never hear me call personal foul.
I also think that topics should be presented in the room in a non-passionate manner or there should be some balance to the passion. A lot of the comments that are deemed offensive by some that I make are responses from their passionate view about their Ideas. Too many times people attempt to argue with passion and very little logic or factual data, which makes their argument seem *uninformed* and this is how feelings end up being hurt because they feel like someone does not share their passion. In actuallity, it is not their passion that is not shared it is the view or opinion of the subject at hand.
In conclusion, I think that if you cannot handle debate about your topics or about your ideas, you should not present them at all. It is not fair to the family for someone to be an absolute truth about an issue. Proper debate about a subject causes learning. Anyone who presents a view, opinion or argument should be able to defend it particularly if they are truly *passionate* about the subject. Debate can be healthy, but I feel it is misunderstood, discouraged in regard to our discussions and placed subservient to emotions.
I will however, make a conscientious effort to mitigate my approach, so to not have my good intentions for increased awareness, enlightenment and education misinterpreted.
Thank you in advance for your reading and understanding.
I think the family needs to create a real framework for what is called offensive language.
I understand that some members feel like I am offensive every time I speak and that is understood and respected and it will be rectified; I will not make speech that is considered inflammatory and personal, I will make an effort to analyze the thought before it is released; however, I would like to make the following comments.
I do not think someone coming in chat and telling us that THEY'RE EXERPIENCES MAKES THEM AN AUTHORITY AND US IDIOTS is helpful. That is very offensive in itself that someone can come and just say were idiots because we do not know what they know. Comments like these should also be considered offensive in nature.
Moreover, I think that if you present yourself as an authority on an issue. That you should be able to defend your authority, if a family member makes an opinion about your presentation or ideas, that this should not be considered a personal attack. I think personally people try to yell personal foul when someone debates their ideas and not them. People debate my ideas all the time and you never hear me call personal foul.
I also think that topics should be presented in the room in a non-passionate manner or there should be some balance to the passion. A lot of the comments that are deemed offensive by some that I make are responses from their passionate view about their Ideas. Too many times people attempt to argue with passion and very little logic or factual data, which makes their argument seem *uninformed* and this is how feelings end up being hurt because they feel like someone does not share their passion. In actuallity, it is not their passion that is not shared it is the view or opinion of the subject at hand.
In conclusion, I think that if you cannot handle debate about your topics or about your ideas, you should not present them at all. It is not fair to the family for someone to be an absolute truth about an issue. Proper debate about a subject causes learning. Anyone who presents a view, opinion or argument should be able to defend it particularly if they are truly *passionate* about the subject. Debate can be healthy, but I feel it is misunderstood, discouraged in regard to our discussions and placed subservient to emotions.
I will however, make a conscientious effort to mitigate my approach, so to not have my good intentions for increased awareness, enlightenment and education misinterpreted.
Thank you in advance for your reading and understanding.