Black Relationships : Not in the mood

Discussion in 'Black Relationships' started by panafrica, Aug 24, 2006.

  1. panafrica

    panafrica Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    http://www.nydailynews.com/front/story/446251p-375512c.html
     
  2. jamesfrmphilly

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    dat's why i'm single........
     
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    you said a mouthful brothaman.....:bullseye:

    one love
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    Let her see you doing the dishes, laundry and vacuuming the night before. Cuddling that night, a call or email next day at work. KFC or leftovers for dinner. Run her a bath while you do the dinner dishes. After that its usually good to go. Make sure you follow all that up within two days.
     
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    Women just aren't going to be turned on or tuned in to a man's sexual drive all the time when a man wants to have sex and vice versa. Most healthy people with healthy sex drives can eventually have sex if physically stimulated long enough. Orgasms are primarily tension relievers and yes, they feel good. But women often have good reasons for saying no, and if the mood isn't right for them, her honesty should be respected. If a woman was saying no the majority of the time when she's approached then it may not be her sexual drive put into question but something else may be going on with her. It's been written often here that the brain is the largest sex organ...and if someone is not in the mood that doesn't mean that they can't perform sexually if coaxed or coerced, but that their mind is on other things at the time, and those other things just could be as important to a woman as a man's immediate need to obtain sexual release.

    Any man/woman in a monogamous relationship will need to recognize this and make appropriate adjustments at one time or another. These situations are either a point made in favor of men becoming more compassionate toward the feelings of women or an argument in favor of legalizing polygamy.
     
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    Sister Queenie ... or an effort to encourage men to have sex with each other, since their drives are more alike.

    :heart:

    Destee
     
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    Don't get it twisted, more and more women are opting for the "single life" opposed to bending backward for some tube steak because believe it or not, a lot of men try to "ration their goodies". The game can be played both ways. Do what you do..... :look: mayne.
     
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    i think they are already on to that........
     
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    Why cant yall just admit that on this issue, it just may be yalls fault?!!? There is also a study that done at Ohio State showing women overwhelmingly have " issues " ( read: view it as nasty, dirty, perverse ) when it comes to sex. :welldone:

    In order to not be included in this category, you should go out and give regular sex to your significant other. We will be closely monitoring this activity. :coffee:


    wha?
     
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