I was on the phone to the guy I like. We were talking about our goals in life and he says he has to alter some of his goals. One being no relationships in 2011. I feel like I'm on the sideline yet again. Whenever I feel like I'm getting somewhere with us, he says something like this. I think he mentions it every so often to make sure we are on the same page at all times. He's already told me that emotionally he doesn't know what he wants and I understand that. He asked if I was okay with just chilling and I said I was because we were just "chilling". Last week we got pretty close and we kissed. He did make sure that I was cool with it all and that I wasn't uncomfortable. I went home thinking okay so we are doing more than chilling and I guess in the back of my mind hoping we would be more than friends soon. I don't want to continue with anything intimate if I'm just going to be just seen as "casual". We agreed that people should spend more time getting to know each other before jumping into a relationship- But come on no relationships in 2011. Am I expected to wait for him? no thanks So what's a girl to do? **edit** I forgot to mention that he just got out of a relationship a few months ago, He got hurt in that relationship and he tries to avoid talking about it. I don't think he is really over it to be honest.