Why do people say disrespectful things? To annoy/anger/hurt you. If what a person is saying about you is not true, why get upset? You KNOW it's not true. You don't need them to know, you are the only person who needs to know. If what they say IS true then again, why get upset? They told the truth. Example: If I call you all idiots, why would you have any reason to get upset? You either are or are not idiots. In either case you know the truth and if you're not an idiot me calling you one doesn't make it so. If you think yourself to be an idiot then I told you what you already knew so what's the problem? You're not an idiot, don't think yourself one. NEVER surrender your power to ANYONE. NEVER surrender your power to ANYONE. NEVER surrender your power to ANYONE. Repeat that over and over. We can't control what others think of us and if it's negative there is no reason to care. We are NOT N words, leave that word out of your mind, it holds no power over you and you hold no power over changing it's meaning no matter how you spell it or what context you use it in. Words only have the power you give them, don't give them any. This is the first step in healing ourselves from the inside out.