Waz - Amazing is the mind's ability to justify taking pain or inflicting it. Experience should be our guide. Even then, we sacrifice for Love. What a powerful emotion to upset any applecart. I guess it comes down to what we choose. Very nice work Waz. Namyh
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I think we do end up putting up with a lot but, we do need to figure out why, thank you sis nevar.
Yes, it is a real tricky balancing act at times So'ja, thank you brother.
Thank you for saying that I said a mouthful jusdatnice. Appreciated, poetess.
Glad you agree Rich. Thank you so much brother.
You certainly know how to break the matter down in your response Harry Hyman. Experience should be our guide, but sometimes we act on impulse. Thank you very much brother.
Yes, it is a real tricky balancing act at times So'ja, thank you brother.
Thank you for saying that I said a mouthful jusdatnice. Appreciated, poetess.
Glad you agree Rich. Thank you so much brother.
You certainly know how to break the matter down in your response Harry Hyman. Experience should be our guide, but sometimes we act on impulse. Thank you very much brother.
I've often asked myself that question, Watz when I watch
the back and forth of Domestic violence....in other's relationship.
But a friend once told me that people love & accept the only
way they have been taught and one person's definition of love
may not coincide what we believe that to be. There was a time
when I was judgemental of that. I have learned I can only walk in my
own shoes. You've posed a myriad of thought here. poet.
I enjoyed and absorbed the read....thanx for sharing.
epiphany
the back and forth of Domestic violence....in other's relationship.
But a friend once told me that people love & accept the only
way they have been taught and one person's definition of love
may not coincide what we believe that to be. There was a time
when I was judgemental of that. I have learned I can only walk in my
own shoes. You've posed a myriad of thought here. poet.
I enjoyed and absorbed the read....thanx for sharing.
epiphany
The reasons as to why those being abused, stay, is a mystery others. I truly appreciate your perspective on this piece sister epiphany, one person's perspective of love may not be the same as another's. Thank you.
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Thank You Watz...You bring up questions that are always relevant.
Very thought provoking.
I like this flow very much.
Thank You Watz... you do this well
You bring up questions that are always relevant.
Those that hurt you
That you love
Can not be dismissed to soon
It is decision time and it has to be weighed and taken seriously
When you venture out to find something better
You may find it worse than what you left.
You should not be blind to accepting the abusers nonsense
They should know this. They have to be told.
There is no time for door mat syndrome here.
So the power comes back to the one
That chooses to remain.
The timing may not be good
The children's welfare and
The need for their guidance
They would not receive if you left
May be the price
If it is bad... leave and take only the children
Leave all furniture and take what you can carry or wear
The amount of continued time remaining
Is up to the one being abused
No time for sleeping
The abuse may not subside
So don't relax the vigilance to check the abuser
This is not a time to be coy or explain... just leave
No need to discuss just leave
With no consideration of ever returning
Women suffer abuse from men more than men suffer from women.
What should be his perspective when he is abused?
Think for a moment
The courts will more than likely award custody to the mother
She will need and deserve child support
The children and mother need a roof to live and so does the man
If she can’t afford to pay for one on her own
Or he can’t afford to get one on his own
And still provide …then stay in the same house.
Move to a larger one.
If your house is big enough, live in separate quarters
Deal with it with some semblance of respect for boundaries
This can be difficult but not impossible
Think for a moment
If a man moves across town or out of state and wants
To spend time with his children
He has to fight the system, and courts
Deal with unreasonable delays and denials of custody
No need if you live in a guest house or room of the house, you can still have a meaningful relationship with your kids
and even spend as much time with your kids as needed and you like.
If she wants to see her new man… she should do it outside of the home…go out, and be with him.
He isn’t allowed into the home, and
The mans friend can’t be allowed to visit either
Divorce apart like divorce and sharing rent and raising the kids
In the same house to me are no different.
Kids aren’t naive... they know divorce exist, they depend on adults
To show them how to have a wonderful or respectful relationship
If the relationship isn’t working they know
So be honest... they know
Watz
No one likes sitting on pain... relationships can hurt.
They are a lot of work and raising a family is also
Are there imperfections in anyone?
There are no imperfections only growth
In maturity and understanding
So refrain from throwing daggers for the ones heading back can be sharper
Acceptance of the truth is paramount The GOOD, The BAD and The UGLY!
I am watching that movie with Clint Eastwood. . I love that movie… it’s on in the background.
Very thought provoking.
I like this flow very much.
Thank You Watz... you do this well
You bring up questions that are always relevant.
Those that hurt you
That you love
Can not be dismissed to soon
It is decision time and it has to be weighed and taken seriously
When you venture out to find something better
You may find it worse than what you left.
You should not be blind to accepting the abusers nonsense
They should know this. They have to be told.
There is no time for door mat syndrome here.
So the power comes back to the one
That chooses to remain.
The timing may not be good
The children's welfare and
The need for their guidance
They would not receive if you left
May be the price
If it is bad... leave and take only the children
Leave all furniture and take what you can carry or wear
The amount of continued time remaining
Is up to the one being abused
No time for sleeping
The abuse may not subside
So don't relax the vigilance to check the abuser
This is not a time to be coy or explain... just leave
No need to discuss just leave
With no consideration of ever returning
Women suffer abuse from men more than men suffer from women.
What should be his perspective when he is abused?
Think for a moment
The courts will more than likely award custody to the mother
She will need and deserve child support
The children and mother need a roof to live and so does the man
If she can’t afford to pay for one on her own
Or he can’t afford to get one on his own
And still provide …then stay in the same house.
Move to a larger one.
If your house is big enough, live in separate quarters
Deal with it with some semblance of respect for boundaries
This can be difficult but not impossible
Think for a moment
If a man moves across town or out of state and wants
To spend time with his children
He has to fight the system, and courts
Deal with unreasonable delays and denials of custody
No need if you live in a guest house or room of the house, you can still have a meaningful relationship with your kids
and even spend as much time with your kids as needed and you like.
If she wants to see her new man… she should do it outside of the home…go out, and be with him.
He isn’t allowed into the home, and
The mans friend can’t be allowed to visit either
Divorce apart like divorce and sharing rent and raising the kids
In the same house to me are no different.
Kids aren’t naive... they know divorce exist, they depend on adults
To show them how to have a wonderful or respectful relationship
If the relationship isn’t working they know
So be honest... they know
Watz
No one likes sitting on pain... relationships can hurt.
They are a lot of work and raising a family is also
Are there imperfections in anyone?
There are no imperfections only growth
In maturity and understanding
So refrain from throwing daggers for the ones heading back can be sharper
Acceptance of the truth is paramount The GOOD, The BAD and The UGLY!
I am watching that movie with Clint Eastwood. . I love that movie… it’s on in the background.
... please make yourself at home ... 