Black Relationships : Never approached as a black woman

Kemetstry

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Well, if people think you have a babyface, maybe some guys think you're too young.

In any case, men aren't obligated to approach even women they think are beautiful.

Also, you don't have to wait for a guy to approach you; you're allowed to approach guys you like, if you want.


Wait, do I have to give you your own lecture on traditional roles???????




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Kemetstry

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Some men are intimidated by beauty

Some men may think you are so beautiful you are already locked up

Some men may have someone already but still flirt and compliment

Some men only like tall short dark light skinny fat females and you don't fit that preference

Some women don't know the womanly are of flirtation themselves

Don't press. When he comes and he will, just be ready




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havokb

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:hello: havokb ... Welcome Welcome Welcome ... :wave:

I often hear Sisters worried about not having the attention of a man / men.

It does not matter their origin, beauty, color, height, weight, age, nothing ... it seems universal.

I'm sure you have heard this before, but you should not worry about it too much.

In fact, it may be to your absolute benefit that they are overlooking you.

Some men ... no matter their color ... do not have a young woman's best interest at heart.

Additionally, when Sisters become overly concerned about such, they simultaneously become more vulnerable.

21 is very young with plenty of time to court and date and such ... he will come.

Try to focus on your studies, your goals (that do not require a man), your life, family, interests, etc.

I know it's hard to do, when what you want is not present, yet at the forefront of your thoughts.

Sometimes what we want is not what we need ... and the universe knows this and delivers accordingly.

I also started a thread on Hausa ... :) ... thank you for introducing the term to us! ... :yaay:

Thank you for joining us and sharing and please make yourself right at home!

Much Love and Peace.

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Destee
Thank you so much for your comment. Also, it means so much to me how you started a thread on the Hausa tribe. I think many other black Americans don't know much about this tribe so its nice you are introducing it in a forum.
 

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I am never approached by men as a black woman. Not even black men approach me, or at least only one has. And no offense, sometimes I see unattractive black women with unattractive black men. Maybe its because I am not light skin.....? People tell me I have a babyface and it doesn't help that I am a petite girl. People always ask me for my age all the time. 5'6 and weigh 125 lbs and I am 21 and in college. I don't go to bars or nightclubs.

I am not an ugly girl because strangers call me beautiful/pretty. I am Nigerian-American and I have Sudanese men ask me if I am Hausa and that I am really attractive. One Sudanese man asked if I have a bf and when I told him I never had one before he was surprised and said I was really pretty and said that he sees ugly women with bfs. Or sometimes on the street, a man will say I am beautiful but still never approached. Then, I see many white guys staring at me but never approaching me. Why it that I am still never approached by any men-not even aggressive black men?
You may not be being approached at the moment, but did you consider that the person interested may be observing you? That's what I have learned to do concerning any woman I'm interested in, especially her conversation and handling of people and situations.
 

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I am never approached by men as a black woman. Not even black men approach me, or at least only one has. And no offense, sometimes I see unattractive black women with unattractive black men. Maybe its because I am not light skin.....? People tell me I have a babyface and it doesn't help that I am a petite girl. People always ask me for my age all the time. 5'6 and weigh 125 lbs and I am 21 and in college. I don't go to bars or nightclubs.

I am not an ugly girl because strangers call me beautiful/pretty. I am Nigerian-American and I have Sudanese men ask me if I am Hausa and that I am really attractive. One Sudanese man asked if I have a bf and when I told him I never had one before he was surprised and said I was really pretty and said that he sees ugly women with bfs. Or sometimes on the street, a man will say I am beautiful but still never approached. Then, I see many white guys staring at me but never approaching me. Why it that I am still never approached by any men-not even aggressive black men?


Maybe it's your entitlement attitude. What are you doing besides looking cute? Why should anyone be interested in you simply because of your outward appearance?
Dudes steer clear of women that are "too pretty" for a reason.. and it's not because they're scared. It's because of the baggage that comes along with a woman that believes
her looks entitles her to something.

Not saying that that's what you do, but is it? Should simply being female and being cute get you somewhere with dudes? Think about it.

context is everything.
 
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