Black Relationships : Need & Want Thang....

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  1. DIIMOND

    DIIMOND Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    What do u need or want from ur special loved one?
    Me myself I feel .....
    sometimes I need him to be here
    other times I want him to leave

    sometimes I need him to wrap me in his arms
    other times I want him to give me some space..
    How do ya'll fell about what I've said? agree or disagree?
    And how do ya'll feel about the " need" & the "want" thang?
     
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    $$RICH$$ Lyon King Admin. STAFF

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    feelings come and go we all feel at times that our love
    has a turn in life to be held and caress and other times
    we wish to be alone but true love always has it's own
    place in da heart ...
    we need
    we want
    we wish
    and
    we care not
    we say no
    the feelin is outstanding at times
    now i wish and need and want
    is something so rare and can't be done.
    so i take it in stride wit each day.
     
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    DIIMOND Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I feel ya words and I agree....
    But most of the time I need my love next to me....

    Well...if I had a love that is.....
    But I don't...
    But I know from past relationships
    that love is never selfish
    but sometimes you need some alone time....
    I feel ya $RICH$ thanks for the reply...
    1 Love....
     
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    indeed we all love to have our mate beside us but at the same time we want our space true love never dems ya most welcome
    my sweet
     
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    dream a dream and i'll be their
    u can be to me what u wish
    call my name three tymes
     
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    that's interesting to really think about. hm...i thought that i had a response, but just when i think that i have my needs vs my wants clarified it kinda changes. i'm going to really think about this over the weekend...(by the way...if i'm delving too deeply into this just let me know...lol)
     
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    Thanks LiLi for replying to this question? And take all the time u need to think about this one. I personally have alot of opinions myself on this subject cause when you think about needs and wants it really does extend to different avenues of the love relationship... so take ur time and think about it and get back to me.....
     
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    Nia Maishani Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Good question...

    [Old Post] 10-20-2002 02:52 PM

    Good Question

    Needs: refrain from crowding me, especially in the beginning of the relationship; extend equal effort toward helping to nourish and sustain the health of the relationship; make a serious effort to stay on one accord with me; keep open our lines of commuication; accept me for who I am, warts and al; complement me via using your strengths to ameliorate my weaknesses and using my strengths to ameliorate your weaknesses; carry your own weight; respect and consider my perspectives with honesty and without intimidation; share child-rearing responsibilities

    Wants: refrain from flirting with or accepting flirting from others; be a positive example to me and others; keep our business in the home; share domestic responsibilities; etc.

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    i feel that we all want certain things, but in the end we see that i wants are really our needs. don't forget your love, but don't let your love forget you either....you feel what i'm saying? i agree with you in all, but sometimes you gotta just go with the flow. it's a time thing.....and you can't rush it...keep it comin my sistah.....keep it comin.....
     
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    NEED
    I need a woman who work with me not depending on me to be her get-out-of-the-ghetto ticket, a working woman. She needs to know that is alright for us to disagree. That she has to tell me things not hint around about things, I am not a mind reader.
    Self confidence is a must in a sistah. I know too many sistahs starving themselves to fit into a smaller size and/or even will only be intimate in total darkness! Too much baggage is a burden and a turn-off. Just because there is a sell at the mall doesnot mean you have to go buy something. I grew up poor and I tell u it sux. A woman who knows when to be quiet and listen. Drug free!

    WANT
    I want a woman with natural beauty. No weave, color contacts, no blonde hair,etc but these are negotitiable. :) A woman without kids is good but I can deal with a few. Also much emphasis what Nia said, refrain from flirting with others. Like I read in another post, you cannot show your teeth to everybody". A woman who does not curse or very little at all. If she has a salior's mouth things can get really nasty. When the game is on television please try not stand between the television and I trying to discuss something. Donot talk about how fine you think some man looks on televsion. No biting!!!
     
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