Black People : Name Calling

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  1. legit-writer

    legit-writer Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    In a relationship during an argument, if someone calls you names, would that be the end of your relationship with them? Why or why not?
     
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    Peace,

    Not necessarily a deal breaker but it's a good indicator that when cooler heads prevail, I need to have a serious conversation about what is acceptable behavior within the parameters of the relationship. If a person resorts to name calling it might very well be the symptom of a much more serious problem. If you don't nip it in the bud early on then you might as well get used to it and probably much worse.

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    depends on the name....
     
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    hmmmm,...that would depend on what word or name is being used and/or how that person said it. Certain words usually don't get to me,...but if it is said with rage and anger, and i didn't do anything wrong to that person, then its over.
     
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    Didn't really think of it in this context, but you're absolutely correct. Abusive relationships almost all begin with name-calling.
     
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    I like this one too MsVeraisblessed, typical Bootzey in rare form, for sure... Gotta love it!


    Peace In,
     
  8. legit-writer

    legit-writer Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    if a guy called you a b***h whilst arguing.
     
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    call it a teaching moment.

    none of us have the same background...in relationships, in up bringing, in social interactions. what may not be acceptable for you, may be more than acceptable for others--to include name calling. it gives you an opportunity to teach that person about your standards of acceptable behavior. if they're accepting of this, and correct their behavior, all is well. if not, you can still walk away.

    name-calling doesn't necessarily spell abusive behavior. and, generally, name calling is either a reaction to some form of attack, or an attempt at humor. if it's in the heat of an argument that you started, you have to ask yourself, "what did i say to deserve this?" they may have felt "attacked" by your comments/accusations. you don't have to call a person a name to make them feel stepped on--the name-calling being their form of retalliation. if it's in the form of humor, you have to inform him/her that it's unacceptable. either way, a conversation needs to happen.
     
  10. Clyde C Coger Jr

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    Name calling is a rule violation here at Destee.com, and should be in secular life as well. Is this rhetorical, or you candidly don't have a clue my friend? But thank God you've received some very good advice, especially from Bootzey and MsVeraisblessed... it depends upon the name and tone in which it is said... I like to use the word, endearment... even something negative can be said with endearment, if you know what I mean:wink:

     
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