Black Relationships : My Aging Standards, and Being Single

[Kemetstry]

Never lower your standards. Always continue to improve yourself to assure yourself ready, when and if
that needle is found.
Don't give up..it will probably happen when lest expected.
Good Luck, may God send you this blessing.

Words to live by





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[Angela22]

- Honest
- Loyal
- Respectful
- Self-less
- Hard-working
- Independent
- Positive attitude
- Healthy mentally and physically
- Excellent communicator
- Intelligent
- Educated
- Mature
- Someone I can feel comfortable introducing to my daughter/family
- Considerate/put not a push over
- Motivated to do better for himself
- Family oriented

I don't think that that is much to ask for.

I don't think so either; I believe this is the basics of what any man(or woman) should (want to) be.

 

[Keita Kenyatta]

It gets better and it gets worse. People change and people grow. Me and my second wife were made for each other, or so it seemed. Problem? Yes...our priorities changed because that's what humans do when they are growing. I was an entertainer...on the road, in the studio, doing my records and she wanted a man that was going to be there....someone to come home to and all that. Did I need to do what I was doing? Not really. My building was bringing in over 80,000 a year so it wasn't about the money. It was about me exploring different aspects of myself and my talents. We grew apart.

Here's a good story for you just to show you the difference in men and women and what's important to them at certain ages. A teacher went to a high school and asked all the guys and girls in there to write down the three most important women in their lives...,and for the girls to write down the three most important men. A lot of hearts got broke that day because in 95% of the guys answers, their girlfriends were not on that list...where as for the list that the girls had, they had their boyfriend listed on them. Moral of the story?

How we feel and think in terms of our priorities and wants and needs at 20...30.....40....50...are all going to change with time, experience and growth. I know brothers right now that are allowing "male menopause" to get the best of them and it's ruining their marriages. I know women who upon menopause are like totally different women in everything. We change, we grow, we reap, we sow...and regardless of what you think is important for you in terms of a man right now...that too will change with time...just as surely as you will change or grow with time. Sometimes you may get lucky enough where the two of you will grow in the same direction together at the same time but don't bank on it.

 

[Mikha'el]

Well Brandi you could always.....u know.....

 

[Honey1201]

It gets better and it gets worse. People change and people grow. Me and my second wife were made for each other, or so it seemed. Problem? Yes...our priorities changed because that's what humans do when they are growing. I was an entertainer...on the road, in the studio, doing my records and she wanted a man that was going to be there....someone to come home to and all that. Did I need to do what I was doing? Not really. My building was bringing in over 80,000 a year so it wasn't about the money. It was about me exploring different aspects of myself and my talents. We grew apart.

Here's a good story for you just to show you the difference in men and women and what's important to them at certain ages. A teacher went to a high school and asked all the guys and girls in there to write down the three most important women in their lives...,and for the girls to write down the three most important men. A lot of hearts got broke that day because in 95% of the guys answers, their girlfriends were not on that list...where as for the list that the girls had, they had their boyfriend listed on them. Moral of the story?

How we feel and think in terms of our priorities and wants and needs at 20...30.....40....50...are all going to change with time, experience and growth. I know brothers right now that are allowing "male menopause" to get the best of them and it's ruining their marriages. I know women who upon menopause are like totally different women in everything. We change, we grow, we reap, we sow...and regardless of what you think is important for you in terms of a man right now...that too will change with time...just as surely as you will change or grow with time. Sometimes you may get lucky enough where the two of you will grow in the same direction together at the same time but don't bank on it.

Do you regret not making it work with your second wife?