Destee wrote: Also, as my friend's friend, why would i want to be the bearer of such bad news? Why would i want to hurt them this way?
My very best friend would be hurt if I didn't tell her, she would feel that I knew information that allowed her to be made a fool of. We eat lunch together each day and most of that lunch hour she is talking about her man. I could not sit in her face everyday knowing he is cheating while she is going on about how wonderful he is. If she found out I knew and didn't tell her, she then starts to question my friendship. Plus she has made it pretty clear that she doesn't like being around people she can't trust like family.
I know at times it's a double edge sword, but actually she and I have had a "what if " conversation early on in our friendship and both have a clear understanding that we'd both want to know and not be left in the dark.
Plus, I wouldn't be the one to hurt her, he would. I've always been there for her be it good times or bad, so I guess I'd be the one wiping her tears away.
Bottom line is I have to put myself in her shoes and ask would I want to know? Would I be angry with my friend for NOT telling me what she knew and save me further heartache? What if she knew the other woman was skank and out there? Would I feel guilty knowing my best friend tells me she is not using protection with her man because they aren't seeing other people? Sorry, I could not let my friend go out like that.