panafrica said:I think the bottom line here is that people do what we allow them to! It makes little sense to for a person blame someone else when they "willingly" allowed them to enter their body. This is especially true when it comes to women and pregnancy! Men don't get pregnant, Women do! Because of this basic biological reality, it is ultimately the woman's primary concern to prevent unwanted pregnancy (either through birth control or abstinence). I say this not to excuse men of any responsibility, but again this is reality. It is one thing if we are discussing a naive 14 year old who is being told by her boyfriend that: "you can't get pregnant the 1st time" or "I'm shooting blanks". When we are talking about a grown woman in her 20s & beyond, who has had sex education, biology, and everything else...she knows how to prevent pregnancy, and has no excuse for getting pregnant unintentially (or getting tricked into pregnancy). As I said in my previous response, in today's day & time with modern pregnancy prevention methods: The only way a woman gets pregnant is if she did not take the proper preventative measures. The more unsure a woman is about a man & his intentions..the more she needs to take steps to prevent getting pregnant by him.
Men need to get it through their minds that condoms are as necessary as birth control if you are not in a monogamus relationship. This is something that they can control, and is the ONLY way to prevent deadly STDs such as AIDS/HIV.
People are concentrating way too much on pregancy as a 'consequence' to irresponsible sex. Yes, it happens, and it can screw up your life if it isn't planned, but AIDS will kill you. And condoms, (which is a contraceptive device used primarily by men), is the only thing out there that can prevent that.
Sexual responsibility is a 50/50 thing. Yes, it is true that a woman carries the baby, but the days in which men can say, "Oh, protection is not my responsibility," are LONG gone. A man that continues to have sexual relations unprotected, (and I say men specifically because they often times push women to have sex unprotected because it feels better in addition to the fact that society already overly acknowledges the importance of sexual responsibility in women), is playing Russian roulette with his body.