Black Relationships : Men who trap women with pregnancy?

panafrica

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Oba Iparankanru said:
I wonder how exactly thats possible? I pretty much agree with panafrica on this one. I can't think of anyway a man can possibly trap a woman with a baby unless she's super blonde and or mentally retarded. especially with how the laws are set up.
It doesn't make sense to play the victim, when it isn't true! When it comes to sex & its consequences (disease, unwanted pregnancy, deadbeat fathers)....women have more control over the situation, than many of them like to claim!
 

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Destee said:
Brother Kente ... i disagree. If you are aware of Nos. 1, 2, and 3 above (and all the other possible "traps" that could ensnare you) ... and you don't want to have a child ... then you always have the ultimate choice of not having sex. You give up that control when you engage in sexual relations, knowing that these things can happen. If they happen, you can't blame it on someone else. You made a decision to have sex, to partake in an act that could possibly, remotely, produce a child. How can you put the consequences of that act on the shoulders of another, when you knew full well going in (no pun intended), what the outcome could be?

The fact that the female has complete control over the decision of having the baby, aborting it, etc., is no different. At some point (prior to putting your penis in her vagina), you had complete control over whether you created a child. You willingly relinquish that control once you put your penis in her vagina, and the child is conceived. If you know this, and still put your penis in, then you can't blame anyone but yourself for that.

You weren't trapped, maybe careless, irresponsible, a host of other words ... but i don't think trapped is appropriate.

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Destee
Your reasoning is outstanding, I agree with you but, the bottom line is people do things to benefit themselves even if it requires sabotage or trickery, in this case using the creation of a baby to get money, or to keep two people together.
 

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All this tells me is that you should never give other people control over your body or your destiny. Keep that responsibility to yourself. It's not enough to believe that someone loves you enough or that you can trust someone so completely that they may always have your best interest at heart. People are people and on any given day, moods can change.

Queenie :spinstar:
 

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:eek:oops: :jawdrop:I don't think i was supposed to read this. I mean, I thought my generation had problems, man, grown folks....


I could give my opinion,:thinking: but really, i mean dang :haha:, i know im waiting till marriage and all that.

SCW
 

panafrica

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Prizefighter16 said:
I don't think i was supposed to read this. I mean, I thought my generation had problems, man, grown folks....I could give my opinion, but really, i mean dang, i know im waiting till marriage and all that.
Yes sister Prizefighter, grown folks do has issues. However, there are lessons to be learned with them...if you are observant. You will know what not to do, and how not to behave!
 

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i do think men can trap women with pregnancy. lets be real here. i know alot of us have unprotected sex with a long term partner, someone you TRUST. you have sex with out the condom, because you trust each other. oh one day the guy is afraid you may leave him or he has a change in plans, but he doesn't make you aware of this. when he decides to PURPOSEFULLY cum inside you, after you guys agreed that he would pull out...he is trying to trap you.
 

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sweetnes27707 said:
i do think men can trap women with pregnancy. lets be real here. i know alot of us have unprotected sex with a long term partner, someone you TRUST. you have sex with out the condom, because you trust each other. oh one day the guy is afraid you may leave him or he has a change in plans, but he doesn't make you aware of this. when he decides to PURPOSEFULLY cum inside you, after you guys agreed that he would pull out...he is trying to trap you.
Women should never depend on the condom for pregnancy prevention! This is not in her best interest. If a woman does not want to become pregnant she should be on the pill, the shot, or some other form of female contraceptive. If a couple is using condoms only or worse the "withdrawal" method, pregnancy is inevidable! Men "slip" with the "withdrawal" method all the time, and condoms break! This is being real, why would a woman who doesn't want to get pregnant leave birth control up to the man? That isn't logical!
 

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Sex is, as Sex does...

Man + Woman + Sex = baby

It’s just that simple. Like it or not, sex is an act of procreation. It is not abnormal or malicious for a man’s or woman’s natural sexual proclivity to overpower their intellectual reasoning (short of total immoral deviations, such a social taboos) in order to reproduce; anything used to hinder that process is superimposed (i.e., contraception). The sexual drive, copulating and procreation are innate and that’s why we are driven towards their legitimate outcomes.

Procreation doesn’t care about how much money you got in the bank, your degrees or your high IQ or the lack thereof.

If you can come to grips with at least, the scientific reality and natural phenomenon of sex, you may be able to progressively coexist with its overwhelming presence and not become unknowingly entrapped, by your own illusions and romantic ideas.


Peace,

Brother Sun :cool:


…Again…Man + Woman + Sex = :baby:
 

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What is it? Men who see a sista that is responsible, young, cute, no kids, single, has her own home & car, career and money. Why do brothers want to trap you up with a baby? I think this is a form of control because some men don't want to see you happy or without them. I had a couple of brothers who told me that, "he nevers wants me to leave his life", so doing sex i had to pay close attention to this cat, cuz he was (on purpose) trying to get me pregnant. So i broke off the relationship with him just because of me being scared of becoming a Baby Mama.

This has happened to me more than 3 times now. What do you guys think?

Here's what I think. I think that if you play around with a trap...you deserve to get caught.
 

highergond 01

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Absurd!

There us no way a man can trap you into becoming pregnant unless you're being irresponsible in the first place! Can we all just grow up now! Any responsible person knows what they're doing when they engage in sexual activity.In today's world they're are so many alternatives to avoid prgnancy and sexual transmitted diseases, people are just reluctant to do so. If you have your self together so well Princesss, you should leave these boys alone and date a man that will give you the ring, establish the "forgotten" institution of marrriage, then think about having a child because you want to!!
 

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