Black Relationships : Men, what is your definition of a real man/woman?

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  1. Ralfa'il

    Ralfa'il Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    There's been a lot of talk in our community in the media, among our women, and in various studies on black society on what it means to be a man.

    After all we've been through in our sojourn in America, I personally think that only another black man is qualified to pull his brutha'z coat and tell him if he is or isn't behaving as a man should...no one else.


    But since there are so many definitions, what is your opinion of what makes a real man or real woman?

    I believe just being grown is enough to make you one or the other, but I know most wouldn't agree.
     
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    Ralfa'il Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    :tongue: Alright now....don't all yall rush here at once.
     
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    many tame to dis-agree but to me a real man is one
    who stand as a man with morals and respect one that
    is a strong care taker to his family , children and work
    to provide good will , feed his wisdom and knowledge to
    his offsprings teach them values of life and love thy mate
    unconditionally.
    To a point when one grow of age don't always make him a man
    if he don't have his priorities in order to be a man ....................

    JMO.....
     
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    A Real man is a man is one who takes accountability and responsbility for his own actions, and thinks for others with every decision he makes. He utilizes introspection as a means to purge himself of inquity.

    A real woman is her first name, and not what this society wants her to be. Moreover, she is also a woman who controls her own destiny and she too is like the aformentioned man...
     
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    We are all real men. When did we become anything less? They are all real woman too. It’s like when people say, now I’m going out into the real world. Where were they before but the real world?

    A man will die for something outside of himself, and a woman will die for everything inside.
     
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    A real man can hold is own but is not afraid to ask for help

    A real man is most responsible for the physical and spiritual welfare of the whole family

    A real man should love, cherish and honour his wife


    A real woman is virtuous, not lazy but industrious
    confident, kind and generous, respected in the community
    and a source of honour to her husband

    Also a REAL man knows his place just as a REAL woman knows her place!
     
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    Sekhemu Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I agree brotha, Excellent points.
     
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    Ralfa'il Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Hodee

    I agree completely.

    My question is...

    Why is the manhood of blackmen always questioned when we can't pay the bills, hold a job, or stay our of trouble?

    Often times when a black man can't or won't take care of his children, a sista will ask him why don't he be a "real man".

    If a black man gets in trouble a lot and can't hold down a job, some people will tell him to "grow up and be a man".


    Do our problems somehow nullify our manhood as many of our critics suggest?
     
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    Sekhemu Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Because from the first day we set foot in this country as enslaved Africans, the white man has dehumanized and emasculalted us, physically and mentally.

    Unfortunately if you keep repeating a lie, some people will begin to believe it.
     
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    Ralfa'il Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    True...true indeed....
     
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