Black Relationships : Men and Younger Women/Girls

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  1. uplift19

    uplift19 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    OK, I'm watching Dateline right now and they set up a sting to catch what they are calling "Internet Predators." Countless unsuspecting men (24 in all were arrested) are marching up to a house to meet what they think is a teenage girl only to be greeted by a middle-aged white male news anchor with a team of camera men. It is sick, sad, and mildly funny as I watch their reactions. One man stripped naked waiting for the girl to come into the room...he literally got caught with his pants down (well...off)...LOL

    On a serious note though, knowing men that freely meet women online it makes me wonder. Is their online activity as "wholesome" as I think it is? I know men who openly admit that they find 18-year-old girls attractive, yet it is striking to me because the only reason they will admit to that is because it is "legal." You won't find too many intelligent men going around saying they find a 17-year-old sexy, just because of the social perception and legal ramifications of their age.

    Where do we draw the line here? Who says what is right or wrong, regardless of if it's legal or not, where is the moral standard? I reflect on the fact that some prophets in scriptures (that many people base their morality on) did in many instances have young women and girls as wives or sexual partners. How is this reconciled?

    I have met people online before since age 15. Even at that time, I was greeted by men who approached me (via email, etc.) in inappropriate ways. I did have some common sense so I did not respond to these advances, but I also did not spend a wealth of time in chat rooms as they were not as prevalent (or existent) then.

    Imho, the Internet can be an evil that allows people to mask their true selves behind this false world we are interacting in which is a temptation to many who want to escape reality. It is no different than drugs or any other addiction for these sexual predators who now have easy access to fulfill whatever sick fantasies are in their minds. There are countless people who fall into this behavior as I have seen it with my own eyes, no matter how "innocent" it starts out as. Being that this is an online forum, how many brothers or sisters on here have had any experience with people who have met people online and seen them faced with the reality of who they are online coming to light?
     
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    I have dated from online and just will add to take time and get to know someone before actually meeting them in person and when you do make sure it is in a public place, during the daytime, at some kind of social function where other folks are in attendance.
     
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    uplift19 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Do you think men dating a woman of any age as long as she is at least 18 is acceptable?
     
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    This is a difficult question because if we look at it from a "Biblical" perspective all of the major "prophets" who were believed to have had a covenant with "GOD" not only had mulltiple partners but a number of their partners are believed to have been underaged.

    Personally, I am not so much concerned with what is "socially acceptable" as I am with both partners being compatible. If there is a major difference in age and this results in incompatability where the age difference is a factor, then the relationship would be deemed unacceptable.
     
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    I just don't feel it with younger girls. Remember the Janet Jackson snafu? My younger cousin was ready to hit some bars when he saw that. To me, all I saw was little 'Penny', and I felt sorry for her.
     
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    when U get to be my age, all women are younger.........:wchair:
     
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    *chuckles*.....

    Oh James you are hilarious.....LOL.....
     
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    With all the female teachers ( where were these babes when I was in school :lol: ) and internet porn guys ( one of the 1st ones were arrested from my job about 10 yrs ago ), I'm wondering if there is something in the water or air?
     
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    It's something in people's minds. I just wonder where it comes from. How many men fantasize about things they never act out on? What's the difference? To me it's the idea that's problematic.

    Which also brings up the double standard here...some don't think women are molesters because teenage boys want to have sex with their "babe" teachers. I think to some degree, you cannot consider a 17 year old a "child" that doesn't know what he's doing when he has sex with his twenty-something teacher.
     
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    :lol: :lol:

    would you date someone young enough to be your daughter though???
     
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