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https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/men-and-women-cant-be-just-friends/
This article has a lot of truth in it.
Men over estimate the ( relationship) Rela-Friend-Ship.
Women underestimate it.
I have had several friendships with women that never blossomed into sexual relationships.
While I would have quickly crossed from F to L ( friends to lovers) I kept the platonic relationship in perspective. It was very ..very tough.
So to be a Male Friend to a Lady, you either fall into Friend or Lover category.
A Male friend is called an Orbiter. Like a satellite circling earth. Like a spacecraft designed to go into orbit, one not intended to land.
Researchers asked women and men "friends" what they really think—and got very different answers
The results suggest large gender differences in how men and women experience opposite-sex friendships. Men were much more attracted to their female friends than vice versa. Men were also more likely than women to think that their opposite-sex friends were attracted to them—a clearly misguided belief. In fact, men’s estimates of how attractive they were to their female friends had virtually nothing to do with how these women actually felt, and almost everything to do with how the men themselves felt—basically, males assumed that any romantic attraction they experienced was mutual, and were blind to the actual level of romantic interest felt by their female friends. Women, too, were blind to the mindset of their opposite-sex friends; because females generally were not attracted to their male friends, they assumed that this lack of attraction was mutual. As a result, men consistently overestimated the level of attraction felt by their female friends and women consistently underestimated the level of attraction felt by their male friends.
Taken together, these studies suggest that men and women have vastly different views of what it means to be “just friends”—and that these differing views have the potential to lead to trouble. Although women seem to be genuine in their belief that opposite-sex friendships are platonic, men seem unable to turn off their desire for something more.
This article has a lot of truth in it.
Men over estimate the ( relationship) Rela-Friend-Ship.
Women underestimate it.
I have had several friendships with women that never blossomed into sexual relationships.
While I would have quickly crossed from F to L ( friends to lovers) I kept the platonic relationship in perspective. It was very ..very tough.
So to be a Male Friend to a Lady, you either fall into Friend or Lover category.
A Male friend is called an Orbiter. Like a satellite circling earth. Like a spacecraft designed to go into orbit, one not intended to land.
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