Black Relationships : May December Love

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  1. CarrieMonet

    CarrieMonet Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Would you date or marry a man who is 5 or more years younger than yourself?
     
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    I prefer courtship rather than dating--but yes to your question--without hesitation or reservation! And this is not the answer I would have given to your question ummmm, let's say....6 years ago but someone convinced me that age didn't matter at some point. I'm glad I settled myself down and paid attention.

    Queenie :spinstar:
     
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    Well, let's see..... 24 - 5 = uhh... too young.. Ask me again when I'm 30. But I don't see the problem with it. Just can't apply it to my own life right now.
     
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    Can I ask a question in here? What's the difference between dating and courting? I get the feeling I like courting better myself and think that may be apart of my problem. Thanks in advance.
     
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    i believe when a woman choose to date a younger man she is either desperate or he is very mature for his age. It's true that most men mature at a slower pace than women do. :look:
     
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    I used to swear that I would never, ever, EVER on top of that, get involved with a man younger than myself, but I have met someone who amazes me with the amount of maturity that he has. I'm keeping my eye peeled for the "youngness" to start seeping out, but thus far, it hasn't.

    My preference has always been a man older than I am.
     
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    I know it probably wasn't your intent Brother Python, but I find your perspective humorous. Now please tell me, why would an older woman have to be DESPERATE if she finds a younger man attractive? I don't understand the logic behind this. Now, personally, I find maturity in ANY man attractive, regardless of their age. And also, what makes you think that men mature at a slower pace than women? What is the source of your information.

    Peace and looking forward to your response.

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    Brother Solo...just to give you a short answer to your complex question, in my opinion, the difference between courting and dating is, courting is driven by a serious intent to commit to someone in the relationship and dating is entertaining and not necessarily intended to lead to a commitment.

    Queenie :spinstar:
     
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    Yeah, I definitely prefer courting and see "dating" as being pointless, at least to me it is. Thanks.
     
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    You know what so funny about this statement? All that really ever tries to pursue me are younger men. For the most part, most of them think I'm their age...until I tell them how old I am. I have met some men who were about 28, 29, 30 (which is 7,8,9 years youger than me) who had their stuff together and really knew how to PURSUE a woman they had an interest in. One of them had no problems expressing himself which is what appealed to me most...he wasn't playing games.

    The only desparate women in my book are women who stay in relationships that make them miserable.
     
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