Black Relationships : Mates that cheat with each others' relatives/friends

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  1. Tee

    Tee Member MEMBER

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    What would you do if your girl/man was suspected of cheating with a family member or a best friend? To make matters worse, the "family member or friend" is still laughing and smiling in your face, like nothing is going on. I just recently witnessed a situation where 2 girl cousins were so close, they were like sisters. The two cousins met two guys that were close friends just like they were. One of the couples hit it off and things were going great. The other couple wasn't compatible. Since one of the cousins now have a relationship going, the other cousin feels left out. So instead of going out trying to date someone else, she decides to lie on her cousin to her new guy. She lies to the point that whenever the cousin went anywhere to shop, eat, work...she always told her new guy that she was somewhere doing something that she wasn't. She could do this because she still talked to the guy that she had met, and all he would do is go and tell his friend these lies. To make a long story short, they ended up sleeping together and once every thing hit the fan, everyone lost. They say blood is thicker than water, but what do you do with a relative or so called friend that does these type of things?
     
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    stay away from them.
     
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    I agree with brother JamesfrmPhilly, I would restrict my interaction with these "cousins" to family reunions only!
     
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    yes,

    I have to agree with Brother James and Brother Pan as well. If this person could allow lust to come before the love of a good griend or family member then let the them go...their priorities are not in order. If they should ever come to you for forgiveness, forgive them, but continue too keep your distance.
     
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    these are the kind you don't want to get deep with
    like everyone above i would break away from friends or relatives
    like this they mean no good and really confused .
     
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    I stay away from family when it comes to relationships.
     
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    I can relate to your example Tee. I have this female cousin who tried her best to take my then Husband away. She would make suggestive comments to him when she thought that I wasn't around to hear it. She would word things in such a way that an onlooker would be able to say "I didn't see nothing wrong with what she said" but being that I am a flirt as well, I picked up on it. My Husband, who was my Boyfriend at the time, didn't pay her any mind. I watched her wilt like a flower without water when he didn't respond to any of her advances....But one thing that I noticed with her- she didn't dare bring none of her boyfriends around me! I think that she was afraid that I would get some revenge on her( and I would have too- just to let her feel how I felt). Some family members are truly Sneaky Snakes, hating to see you succeed or do well. It's sad really.....

    Upon seeing that this relative of yours can't be trusted, I would love him/her from afar and never bring my man/woman around him/her.
     
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    Quote from my Dad

    My dad use to say "You have family and then you have relatives. Your relatives are not your family". That speaks for itself. All is fair in love and war.


    Peace

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    Then, is "Family" to be trusted?
     
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    If you can't trust your family then they are not your family.
     
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