- Nov 2, 2009
- independent thoughtist thinker, context linker
but to be honest and fair, it has been men who are leading the assault cases, and domestic homicides.... not at all to let women off the hook, but just up until recent.. they were the carriers of the hubbys stress, and many wifes, and kids had to walk on egg shells when daddy came home pissed off from work, or from the bar.. that, or be knocked silly, because is that not how we settled our anger?
I remember when I was a youngin seeing pictures of cavemen dragging his wife by her locks, while he carried a club in the other hand..I do believe I even seen it in a cartoon strip..
The ever so popular "wife beater" muscle shirt may have been drummed up by the media depicting abusive men being dragged to jail in cuffs ,after he bashed his womans head in..
male dominance, female submission, beating someone till they listen or obey, are just a few that lead the charge in the destructive and moronic way are taught to find balance...
I hear what you are saying.. I just don't think it's a matter of who does it
more.. I don't think it's about frequency.. I think its about incident..
and when it happens, a general idea of what usually happens should not
enter into the judgement regarding what happened in this specific instance..
I hate that sentence.. what I'm saying is.. just because men are usually
the beaters, does not mean that women should get a free pass when they
become the beaters.. I think we have to judge each incident by it's own
merits.. and not let general ideas interfere.. because quiet as its kept, that's
what judges do to black folk.. when you appear before a judge, he has seen
you before.. you are "black male".. and you shouldve learned by now.. so,
here's the heaviest sentence I can find.. because, the last time you were
here, I took it easy on you... now.. this is your first offense.. but because
the judge is dealing with some general notion of "black men", you get the
book thrown at you.. that's not right.. and I don't think we should do it
either.. thats why I believe statistics regarding frequency should not be
considered when we judge individual incidents..