If someone feels they are being drug through the mud, then they have offered up some part of themselves to feel that way. I do not feel like I have been drug through the mud by some ugliness another says. Why should I take that on my back and carry it, as if it is mine? It is not. It is not my truth or experience. Anyone can open their mouths and say anything, it does not make it true enough that I should be offended. I do see and understand those that get personally offended. I have been that way in my life, personally offended about stuff that has absolutely nothing to do with me, but those days are gone (i think).
I do not think the best course of action is to mimic those that act unbecoming. While I understand the desire to do such, it is rarely the right thing to do. Someone has to rise above the fray, provide better examples of dealing with the challenges we face, not act like those that are carrying on foolishly. But again, everyone has a mouth and can say with it what they will.
I wonder how our enslaved Ancestors felt just out of slavery, and the slim pickings available as it relates to wealth. I'm glad they were able to still figure out a way to produce children so that we could be here now talking about how slim the pickings are. I think it ebbs and flows. I remember hearing my uncle talk about how women were the rare commodity when he was a young man. I think we must all deal responsibly with the cup we have been given to drink from. It is what it is. At best, we might be able to improve the pickings for those coming behind us, if we raise up good children today.
I have found that this entire hating on black women or black men is an Internet phenomena. I have never seen black people talking ugly about their own people in real life. I have never seen what these men do online, in real life. I just have never seen it. Maybe I haven't lived long enough, gone far enough, but the only place I have ever seen this ugliness is online. Which is why it is a rule at destee.com, because it cannot live here.
Don't take what they say personal ... God gave them a mouth ... who are we to try and take it from them.
Love You!
Destee
The article is here, and I'm sure there are many others like it across the net, no one should be realizing it later.
Marriage is suppose to be a life-long endeavor and much thought should go into that decision.
One can know early-on of their mate's wealth or lack thereof, as it is not easily fake-able long term.
To move forward, and then act as if you had no clue early on ... only realizing it later ... is a bit disingenuous.
I am that Single Black Mother all these folk are talking ugly about. It's not just black men, i hear it from many.
But I know it is not true. I know it is not my experience. I choose rather to be my best me, in an effort to help fix the problem. Be the great Single Black Mother that I am, focusing my energies on my children and/or that which I love. What I look like running behind krazee folk talking krazee?! Why would I immerse myself in that? It makes no sense to me at all.
Everyone is free to do as they please and if giving your precious energy to them is what you want, stay safe!
Love You!
Destee
It seems you're doing the same thing like in your previous posts. In an effort just to seem right(in your own mind), you're not only twisting words, but you're also bringing in your own logic to the matter being discussed.
Who do you think is on the internet posting these things, since it's such an internet phenomena? Everyone posing as black men? It's black men...
in real life.
Aside from that, do you believe your experience trumps everyone else's? Many, yes
many black women experience otherwise than yourself, believe it or not. So it's not
just on the interwebs for them. I know I've experienced such, on
and offline. You may choose to ignore a problem, but it does't mean it's not going on with everyone else.
Do you really feel that because people
feel insulted by those
actually insulting them, those trying to hush them speaking out against it, those they call kin, they're somehow living life wrong, since
you're not living that way? It is
not wrong to
not want black men speaking ill of us, treating us as if our struggle is lesser than theirs when we're
supposed to be fighting for the
same cause.
Do you truly believe that to be insulted one must offer up "something" for the ones speaking so ill? I suppose things such as slander don't actually exist. Ya know, because if they're speaking it, must be true since you're feeling upset about it and all.
I honestly expected better from you than this; instead of saying how to fix the problem, you're treating like everyone else. Pretend there is no problem, and somehow that means we rise above it and it disappears. It's never worked that way, and never will.
Oh, and if you don't understand something in my post, how about asking what I mean, and not twisting my words? The whole, "no one should be realizing it later", makes no sense to what I was trying to get across, like much of what's in your posts.