Sorry, but that doesn't really make much sense.
Volunteering to be drug through the mud? So you're saying all black women are "volunteering" for these black men to put us down on who we choose to partner with, what we do with our hair and bodies, and many other things that actually have nothing to deal with anyone but the individual involved? How? No one asks their opinion on that, so why they giving it, and calling it truth? And how can we get away from it when they're our counterparts, our other halves, speaking ill of us to the world? Can we escape being black women related by blood to these black men? So, explain what you mean, please.
And no, I'm not lumping all black men; that's your perception, while mine is focused on the ones who actually do what it is I'm speaking on. This is why I don't get black men who have it together, and aren't speaking ill about sistahs getting offended. It's not all brothers, but is it indeed
a lot. If it weren't, it wouldn't be a problem many sistahs do agree we have. I think you're choosing to see it the way you want, though I have no clue why.
If these black men did better where they fall short, we'd have a better pool of men to choose from. That's just fact. Are we going to pretend there aren't many, yes
many, not a few, black men who are choosing not to raise their offspring? Why is telling truths such as this a bad thing? How are we gonna fix it if even mentioning it is an offense? It's becoming where any problem mentioned is merely quieted because bringing it up is only ever called "gender warring", disrespect, self hate, etc. (I don't just mean on Destee, but in general) However, this is especially apparent when black women say anything at all towards what black men have done wrong to their other half.
I have brothers, I have uncles, I have a daddy, many black men in my life, so I'm not at all just throwing them under the bus and saying forget the lot of them. But my views stand. They're failing in more than one way, and it needs to be addressed, not hushed. Ask "how can we fix this because this is a serious concern", and not, "can we change the topic because I'm sensitive to hearing all of this".
Glad to be back, by the way.